Let no one put pressure on you when it comes to marriage.
Getting married early won’t stop you from growing old.
We all have our time to meet the right person, wait for what’s meant for you and not what’s meant for others.
Remember, its about you and your partner, your marriage and not theirs. This is the reason why there are so many divorce in our generation. 80% of couples go into marriage out of societal pressure, family pressure and most importantly family position (mostly in Africa, if you are the first,they believe you should get married first before your younger siblings) and the title of “Mr/Mrs.” They want to show people that they are married and they deserve respect therefore makes them to look down on those who ain’t married.
According to my Client, Stella;
I definitely have a self-imposed pressure to get married. When I was younger I thought I would be married before 30, and maybe close to having my first kid. I can tell you now I’m not even close to any of that. The pressure I put on myself stems heavily from past societal norms. I get scared that if I don’t get married soon I will lose the chance to have a family. The pressure affects my relationship with my parents in some ways because I know they want that for me. My mom reminds me often that she wants grandchildren. It affects my relationship with my extended family (aunts and uncles) who always ask when I’m going to settle down or make snide comments on how I sure am focusing on my career — it has honestly caused me to avoid some family gatherings.
It’s also starting to affect my dating life. I’m starting to question if a relationship has marriage potential as opposed to just having fun and seeing where it goes. Mostly, I had this picture in my head of how my life would be. I’ve had to learn to let go of that pressure and accept that life rarely goes as planed, and remind myself there are many women in the position that I am. I will not let the pressure I put on myself make me not get what I want and I deserve. If I have to wait for it, it’ll be worth it in the end.
The Truth is, I have never seen anyone die of marrying late but I have seen many die because they married wrong. Let it sink in.
Better to marry late and live together forever than marry early and divorce.