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What Do Women Want? A Must-Read for Guys

ByJohnnywriter Posted on Sex and Romance, Love and Relationships
What Do Women Want? Men always are asking me, What Do Women Want?  Well here are the 9 must-know tips that will answer that question once and for all.  If you are a guy, read on.  If you are a woman, share this blog with your boyfriend or husband.  You will be very happy you did!

It’s a common experience: You meet someone new, and things are going great — but after a short time, you’re left wondering what went wrong. If you find yourself longing for more time with someone who has lost interest, you are not alone. Terms like “ghosting” and “benching” have been coined to explain this experience. The list below provides reasons why people suddenly lose interest and suggestions to prevent it from happening again. 1. Low confidence — One of the most common reasons why people lose interest is because the person they’re dating lacks confidence. Confidence counts for a lot. Consider a person — and we all know at least one — who is physically unattractive, yet has many dating options. The reason they do so well is that people are drawn to their confidence. Insecurities may not be obvious right from the start, which is why two people could go out a few times before one person has a change of heart. What can you do about it? Boost your confidence! High self-esteem results from being comfortable in your own skin and excelling in valued domains. Ask yourself, what parts of your life do you want to improve upon? If you feel insecure about your body, prioritize getting in shape. If you are insecure about your job, enroll in courses that will get you to your desired profession. Even working towards those goals will boost your esteem. Keep in mind, there may be some things you cannot change. In that case, tackle what’s malleable and accept the things that are not under your control. 2. Caring too much — Some people are desperately seeking a relationship. They are unhappy on their own and long for someone to spend their life with. Dating partners quickly pick up on — and are turned off by — this quality. Well-rounded individuals, by contrast, are comfortable on their own; they don’t need a partner to feel whole. What can you do about it? If you find yourself in this situation, come to terms with the idea of remaining single for the rest of your life. Once you feel comfortable with this notion, you are ready for a healthy partnership. It could be difficult, at first, to accept this possibility, but it will force you to reflect on who you want to become as an individual. Then, when the time is right, that special person will come into your life and add to who you are, not serve to complete you. 3. Bad timing — If none of the above applies to you, then perhaps the partner lost interest because the timing wasn’t right. We have no way of knowing all that is going on in someone’s life — may be the person is already in a relationship, maybe they are still getting over someone, the list goes on and on. The phrase “It’s not me, it’s you” applies here. You have high confidence, are perfectly happy on your own, and available for that person to enter your life, but if they aren’t in the same place, none of that will matter. What can you do about it? Be okay with the unexplainable. You can’t understand everything; some things in life are a mystery. Have faith that if the relationship is meant to be, it will work out when the timing is right for both people. In the meantime, get busy doing things for yourself, like eating right, exercising, spending time with family and friends, and being open to receiving all the positive experiences life has in store for you. 4. Too much too soon — Sometimes both people are in a good place, ready to start a relationship, but after a hot and heavy start, the spark fizzles out. What went wrong? This can happen when a relationship accelerates too fast and has nowhere to go but down. The physical attraction that draws two people together is often so intense that the partners want to spend all their time together, and when they’re apart, they’re texting constantly and obsessively thinking about each other. Although this can be fun and exciting, the risk is that the relationship doesn’t last. What can you do about it? Be deliberate about a relationship’s progression. Even when you’re starting a new relationship, and things are going great, balance is important. Don’t neglect important people or aspects of your life when you get into a new partnership. Also, work on building the friendship within your new relationship. The most satisfying, long-lasting partnerships have a balance of passion and companionship. You want to ensure that you and your partner have things in common, beyond the physical chemistry. If you follow everything on this list and still find yourself being benched or ghosted, don’t fret. As stated above, people have things going on that you will never understand. A person who doesn’t prioritize you isn’t worth your time and effort, so don’t get stuck on them. Keep an open mind, work on yourself, and have faith that you are right where you need to be. Book appointment with John

1.  Flirt before getting into nitty-gritty sexual pursuit

Whether they are just meeting you, or married for decades, women love flirting.  Don’t just grab at her in a blunt sexual way.  Instead, use soft touch, a lingering gentle kiss on the neck or a wicked wink.  Caress or kiss her hand.  Flirting goes a long way to get the juices going. And it will bring a woman’s attention to the relationship and to you.

2.  Be a bit cocky when you do flirt.

Give yourself a Diamond Self nickname like Captain Jack, or Slow Hand Luke.  Look at her like you’re about to devour her with your eyes.  Make cocky statements like, “You are going to love what I’ll be up to in bed with you!” This is a matter of acting confident.  It will give her the vibe of the alpha male, which is usually irresistible to women.

3.  Be consistent in giving her attention

If you are dating, make sure you make regular contact via text, calls and setting up dates.  Don’t let her fall into anxiety wondering if you are ghosting her.  If you are living together or married, don’t get lost in work and diss her!  Pay attention and respond rapidly when your beloved initiates contact with you.

4. Compliment her

Women absolutely love appreciation and validation! Notice what she does, looks like, or is wearing.  Appreciate the gifts of beauty, presence, food and love she brings.  Then give her sincere compliments.  You can say, You really make me feel so happy!  I love that sexy dress on you!  You are the most wonderful woman and the best cook in the world!  You get the idea!

5.  Process your real feelings with her

Women like to hear what is really going on with their partners at an emotional level.  If you are having problems at work, let her know you are feeling anxious, sad, or resentful of you’re a#*hole boss.  This is so much better than just coming home in a foul mood and getting angry at her. Or withdrawing from her.  Instead ask her if you can go for a walk together and talk about what is really going on with you.  This way, she will feel close to you and can be emotionally supportive. Women love to be emotionally there for their guys.

6.  When she is talking, simply listen to her (especially when she’s upset!)

Women need to be heard.  They need to process their thoughts and emotions even more than guys do.  This is very important in order to have a relationship in which your woman feels understood by you.  And close to you.  When she talks, do not bring up your concerns.  Stop talking yourself and, instead, listen carefully.  And nod your head to indicate you understand what she is feeling. You will have one happy woman!

7.  Do not attempt to fix her problems if she does not ask you to

But what if she is massively upset, crying and miserable?  Or furious because someone screwed her over.  In those situations, you will feel like you HAVE to give her advice.  That you need to help her to quiet down and to stop being so upset.  To solve her problem once and for all.  Resist these helpful impulses If she does not ask for help or advice!  Instead just listen!

8.  Promptly help her solve her problems if she asks you for help

If she finally admits she cannot fix the computer issue that is driving her crazy.  Or that she need help in figuring out how to handle her narcissistic boss, and then asks you for help, give it to her right away.  Show her that she is important in your life.  And that being for her comes first.  No excuses about you being too busy at work, etc.  Drop everything , give her advice and/or go to her and  help her out.  Show her that she is your Beloved!  And you are there to care for her and help make her life great.

9.  Tell her how much you love her!

In fact, you can use texts, emojis, cards, words, gifts and gestures to tell your beloved how much you really love her. Whether you have been together for several months or many decades, this is very important.  Women thrive on romance! So there you have 9 key tips on what women want.

The Founder of Hisparadise, a relationship counselor. Johnnywriter has covered topics related to depression, anxiety, and relationships. With an understanding that there is never too much information and helpful research about relationship problems in all of its forms, He continues to look for new and creative ways to both start discussions & engage with others about these important topics.

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