Eating pussy is one of the best ways to give pleasure to a vulva. It can also be one of the more intimidating sex acts. If you don’t know how how to eat pussy, where do you even begin? To best learn how to eat pussy, it’s a good idea to have a grasp of female sexual anatomy.

The primary goal of cunnilingus is to pleasure the clitoris with one’s tongue and lips. The clitoris is analogous to the penis. Like the penis, the clitoris is made up of erectile tissue that engorges with blood when aroused.

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anatomy of the clitoris

Clitoris Anatomy

The clitoral glans, which is analogous to the head of the penis, is the only part of the clitoris that is visible from the outside of the body. The rest of the clitoris is buried inside the vulva, and the engorgement of the internal clitoral structure is what causes the vulva to puff and flush during arousal.

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The internal clitoral structure feels pleasure, and one of the best ways to stimulate this part of the clitoris is with firm, thoughtful pressure. When you eat pussy, you can provide this pressure with your face.

Your face is a stable base for your partner to grind against. You can use your hands to assist the stimulation. Your tongue and lips generate clit-focused movements that will give your partner pleasure.

7 Tips On How to Eat Pussy Like A Pro

Basics of How to Eat Pussy

1. Variety, then consistency

One of the best ways to learn how to eat pussy is by trying a bunch of different things. Explore your partner’s vulva with your tongue and lips, all while paying attention to how your partner responds. Listen for sounds of pleasure and words of affirmation. If she shrieks away or makes an ambiguous sound, pull back and try something else. When you do something that she really likes, KEEP DOING THAT THING. This can be challenging at first, but you’ll become a heat-seeking missile when it comes to locking onto “That Thing” your lady likes.

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2. Offer positive affirmation

You can’t learn how to eat pussy if your partner won’t let you near it! This is often due to insecurity. Society still tells women that vulvas are smelly or ugly. To counteract this negative messaging, try telling her how sexy she looks, smells, and tastes. Tell her she’s beautiful (or whatever adjective would work for her) and make sure she knows you think her body is just delightful. Help her relax into receiving.

3. Respect the clit

Don’t go for the clit too soon. Take your time. Explore her labia and vaginal opening with your mouth. And once you are focused on the clit, understand you may be down there for a while. Give yourself over to the experience. It’s a gift to be allowed to put your mouth on someone’s genitals. Honor that gift and the person by not rushing. Indulge the experience. Practice gratitude.

4. Take your time eating pussy

Anticipation is a huge part of sexual arousal, and it’s essential as you learn how to eat pussy. Take your time working down towards your partner’s vulva. Once you’re between her legs, don’t just dig in. Keep playing. Lick and kiss her labia and thighs. Give her whole genital area some attention. Kiss her outer lips. Nibble and suck on her inner lips.

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Take your tongue close to her clit or even graze it, but don’t go for it just yet. Direct clit stimulation needs a build-up. Instead, french kiss the vulva, nibble at her thighs and labia, and generally take time to warm up your partner.

5. Don’t underestimate the shaft of the clit

Like the shaft of the penis, moving the skin against the erectile tissue can feel delightful and stimulate all the good parts attached to it. In fact, many people don’t like the feeling of glans stimulation at all. This is especially true for folks who tend to run more “sensitive”—the kinds of people who are super ticklish, don’t like vibrators, or for whom even direct nipple stimulation can feel like too much. Don’t know what your partner likes? Ask!

6. Don’t be afraid to take breaks while eating pussy

Pussy-eating can be a workout. It’s okay to take breaks. If you need to do something else because you’re having cramps or numbness in your mouth or muscles, then do it. One important tip: if you’re changing it up, be clear that’s what you’re doing. Sometimes a person might think you just “slipped” off the spot if the switching of gears is too subtle.

7. Change positions

If you have mobile issues, it can be hard to figure out how to eat pussy comfortably. Consider different positions, including “Queening” (aka face-sitting) or eating pussy from behind. Both these positions can be easier on your neck compared to the “traditional” missionary-style position.

pink citrus representing a vulva

How to Eat Pussy Like a Pro

How to Eat Pussy Like a Pro:

  1. Consider how she likes her nipples stimulated. This can give you some clues how to eat her pussy. Some people love intense pressure, sucking, and nibbling. Some people find that to be way too much. Use what you know about her nipples to play with her clit. Often these are very similar.
  2. Try the “Tiny Blowjob.” Just as the clitoral glans is analogous to the penis head, the clitoral hood is analogous to the foreskin. The hood is richly innervated and can feel amazing to stimulate. Explore licking the hood or moving it back and forth across the clit shaft with your mouth.
  3. Penetrate with Permission. Not everyone loves vaginal penetration with their clit stimulation. In fact, it can be distracting or annoying for some folks. So when it doubt, ask. It can be as simple as, “Would you like a finger inside you?”
  4. How to eat pussy while staying safe? STIs and STDs can be transmitted via oral sex with a vulva. If you’re concerned, make sure both you and your partner have been tested. Menstrual blood can be a carrier for hepatitis. If you’re going to be performing cunnilingus on a menstruating person, discuss hepatitis vaccination and testing status, or ask your partner to wear a tampon or menstrual cup.

Now that you know the basics of how to eat pussy, don’t be afraid to experiment. Talk to your partner about what she likes, and ask for feedback during the cunnilingus itself. The fun part is the practice!

What is a blowjob?

A blowjob is a slang term for using one’s mouth to give pleasure to a penis, also known as oral sex. Many people enjoy blowjobs, both as a receiver and as a giver. People enjoy blowjobs for a range of reasons, including sexual pleasure, intimacy between partners, and learning about bodies and pleasure.

How To Give The Best Blowjob Ever: Techniques And Tips

How To Give The Best Blowjob Ever: Techniques And Tips

Starting the blowjob

Blowjobs can be as different as the penis-owner who receives it. The first thing to do is get to know your partner and how they like their penis to be touched.

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Here are some questions to ask:

🍆Do you prefer shaft stimulation or head stimulation?

🍆Do you prefer friction or a lot of lubrication?

🍆Do you like to have your balls touched?

It’s possible your partner may not know the answers to some of these questions, or they may not have a strong opinion. Use the information they give you to guide you, but sometimes experimentation and exploration are the best way to learn about your partner’s body and pleasure.

Begin by placing yourself in a comfortable position with full access to your partner’s penis and scrotum. Some people prefer standing up when receiving a blowjob, while others prefer to sit or lay down. All that matters is that everyone is comfortable.

During the blowjob

Acquaint yourself with your partner’s anatomy. Note the different parts of the penis, including the head (the top of the penis), the urethral opening (where urine, semen, and precum exit the body), the shaft, the presence or absence of foreskin, the scrotum, and the testicles.

The most sensitive parts of the penis are usually the urethral opening, the underside of the head where it meets the shaft (a small area known as the frenulum), and the testicles. For some, gentle stimulation on the most sensitive parts can feel good, but for plenty of other folks, it can be too much. Until you’re sure, focus on the shaft, the skin of the scrotum, and the flesh on the head.

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Begin by kissing and licking the whole penis. It’s possible your partner’s penis may not be fully erect when you begin, and will slowly grow larger and harder as you perform oral sex. Listen carefully to the sounds your partner makes. Sounds like moans and groans are usually a good sign, though silence may also indicate they’re focusing on the pleasure. Your partner thrusting their hips is also usually a good sign.

Contrary to the name, “blowing” is rarely part of a blowjob. Rather, creating suction with your mouth and using your tongue to create sensation on the penis are the primary forms of creating pleasure for your partner.

During the blowjob you may notice a small amount of fluid emerging from the urethral opening. This is called “precum” and it’s a lubricant that is often part of sexual arousal. It often tastes salty and is mostly clear.

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There are two main angles of approach including: top down, where you wrap your lips around the head of the penis and work your way down, like sucking on a popsicle; and the “harmonica method” where you lick and suck on the shaft sideways as if you are playing a harmonica. Experiment with different methods and don’t be afraid to mix it up.

Tips for Giving the Ultimate Blowjob

A great blowjob requires listening carefully to your partner and paying attention to their non-verbal cues, like breath, sound, and body movements.

Beyond technique, one of the best ways to improve your blowjob technique is through enthusiasm. Most blowjob recipients want to know that their partner is enjoying giving them oral sex. Making sounds, eye contact, and being confident when handling the penis all make for a great blowjob. Dirty talk about how much you want to give them a blowjob and small words of encouragement (ex. “Your cock feels so good in my throat”) are a great idea.


A blowjob receiver may reach orgasm after a sufficient amount of pleasurable touch to the penis. Everyone is different — some may reach orgasm quite quickly, while others may not orgasm from a blowjob at all.

The big takeaway is that a blowjob can be pleasurable and satisfying with our without an orgasm. Your partner doesn’t have to come to have enjoyed the experience. Some blowjob receivers like to orgasm at the end of a blowjob, while others may want to orgasm in a different way, as through hand job, self-stimulation, or penetrative sex. It’s a good idea to ask how they want to come, or if they want to come at all.

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When a person with a penis has an orgasm, it’s almost always accompanied by the ejaculation of semen. Some people enjoy the feel and taste of semen, while others don’t. You are not obligated to swallow their semen if you don’t want to.


How To Give The Best Blowjob Ever: Techniques And Tips

After orgasm, most penises are highly sensitive. It’s a good idea to stop manipulating the penis right after your partner ejaculates. Some people will want to keep going, but it’s a good rule of thumb to allow them to tell you if they want more. Simply hold still and allow your partner to breathe and “come down” from the experience. Some people will enjoy kissing and cuddling, but others may prefer something else. After care is a great time to check in and see how you’re both feeling. You can decide if either of you want more.

Some folks will want to clean up right away, while others may want to just relax. It’s a good idea to have some water on hand to rinse your mouth and/or rehydrate after. Dry washcloths can easily clean up ejaculate.

Busting blowjob myths

While there are exceptions to every rule, here are some general guidelines to consider when giving a blowjob.

✅DO use plenty of lubrication. This can be in the form of bottled lube (some blowjob performers enjoy using flavored lube to add to the experience), or just plenty of spit.

❌DON’T be afraid to lick and suck on the scrotum. Many blowjob recipients love a little extra attention paid to their balls.

✅DO be delicate in how you touch the testicles/scrotum. While many people love the feeling of licking, touching, and gently squeezing the scrotum, the testicles are delicate and sensitive. Avoid tugging on the tubes inside or knocking the testicles against each other.

❌DON’T be afraid to ask questions, like “Do you like this?” or “Is there a way/place you like me to lick you differently?”

✅DO demonstrate your own enjoyment by making noises and occasional eye contact. Many recipients like to know that their partner is enjoying themselves, too.

❌DON’T be afraid to use your hands. In fact hands can make a good blowjob great. You can use your hands to stabilize the penis or jerk the penis while your mouth focuses on the head and top part of the shaft.

Blowjob FAQs:

What if I have a strong gag reflex?

Gagging can be an unpleasant side effect of blowjobs. If you’re worried about gagging during a blowjob, use your hand to limit how far the penis goes into your throat. There’s plenty of pleasure you can generate with your hands and tongue on the top portion of the penis.

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Also, consider the curve of your partner’s penis. Adjust your position such that the penis curves down into your mouth instead of up towards your uvula.

Some people actually like to trigger their gag reflex during a blowjob because it can stimulate the production of a particularly thick and viscous saliva that works well as lube.

How To Give The Best Blowjob Ever: Techniques And Tips

Do I have to worry about STIs from blowjobs?

Some sexually transmitted infections (STIs) can be shared via blowjobs. These include herpes, gonorrhea, and some other infections. Ask your partner if they’ve been tested for STIs or have any symptoms. If you’re particularly concerned about contracting something from your partner, use a condom.

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Is it possible to be allergic to semen?

Some people do have an allergic reaction when touching or swallowing semen. Most people who have a reaction will get small hives or an itchy rash where the semen touched their skin. For most people, this will only happen a couple of times when they first start performing hand or blowjobs, or only with specific partners. However, some people may be chronically allergic. If you suspect this may be true for you, ask your doctor for an allergy test.

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Is deep-throating required?

Deep-throating is when the blowjob performer takes the entirety of the penis into the mouth and throat, pressing their mouth near the receiver’s body. While some people enjoy deep-throating because of it’s “extreme” or performative nature, it isn’t required for a pleasurable blowjob. A person’s ability to deep throat is made up of a combination of factors including penis size, throat size, and gag reflex sensitivity.

Do I have to swallow?

Absolutely not! Though some people enjoy swallowing their partner’s ejaculate, it’s never required. As the blowjob performer, you are entitled to an opinion on where your partner will come. Some people enjoy having their partner come on a different part of their body, like their face or chest, while others will direct the ejaculate back onto the recipient’s body. When in doubt, ask before it becomes inevitable.

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Can I get pregnant from a blowjob?

Nope! Pregnancy happens when semen gets close to an egg in the uterus. If their penis or ejaculate isn’t going inside your vagina, it won’t get you pregnant. That said, if you do plan on having penis-in-vagina sex after a blowjob, be sure to use a condom and/or wipe down the penis thoroughly before.

Is it normal to be scared of giving a blowjob?

How To Give The Best Blowjob Ever: Techniques And Tips

It’s common to be nervous when trying something new. If you’ve never given a blowjob before, it can be intimidating to contemplate. The best way to overcome the fear is by finding a partner who you are excited to please, and who cares about your pleasure and comfort. When you feel safe to explore and try new things, blowjobs (and most all sexual activities!) become more fun for everyone. Before you give your first blowjob, it may be a good idea to read more and watch some inclusive porn to demystify the activity.

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What if my partner doesn’t like blowjobs? Am I doing something wrong?

Everyone likes different things, and it’s perfectly possible your partner may not just be a fan of blowjobs. That said, you can open up the conversation in a way that doesn’t make anyone “wrong” by asking if there are specific oral sexual techniques they do enjoy and how you might explore them together. 

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One undeniable truth about our society is that everyone; young, in-between and old, is attracted to the opposite sex. So even if you want to attract a married woman at your workplace, it follows the same principle. You dare not doubt this because it is true. Who knows, your old next-door neighbor may be renown in this game of convincing a girl to bed.

Let me digress to the message of this section. It’d interest you to know that my first-time sexual approach was a complete disaster. It was not how to convince a girl to bed, but I was way too inexperienced; I can’t blame myself though. I know guys out there including you, still practice archaic sexual kinds of approach. Trust me. It doesn’t work anymore. Our girls are now advanced, and we should, therefore, advance quickly to catch up with them.

That reminds me, maybe I should draw instances of missteps you take trying to convince a girl to sleep with you from my disastrous experience. You would at least be able to build your perfection from my errors.

There was this damsel I could do anything just for her attention in high school. I probably was lusting after her, or it was just love, I don’t know. But one thing was sure, and I needed to have her yelling in bed. I gave my best shot but never knew that I was such a punk before her.

Whenever I recall those days, I feel like reverting time to make things right. I know you are aching to know the missteps I took, and yeah, I will, of course, tell you. But promise me you won’t make such mistakes or mistakes that look like it.

Kinds of Stuff I did after successfully gaining her attention!

  • I fixed a date with her for us to see a movie and it was a Marvel movie.
  • She arrived, I hurriedly paid the cabman before she could reach out for her purse.
  • During the movies, I kept discussing past episodes and releases of this movies production giant.
  • Just When I thought she was beginning to feel cool around me, I resorted to telling her how much I love and respect her and that if I didn’t, I’d never invite her for a movie. She was like, “Oh, really” sounding so casual.
  • being myopic, I thought such a response was a sign of positivity.

The Signs of Loss of Interest

Halfway into the discussion, she started fiddling with her iPhone, even with the latest Marvel release still on the screen. At this point, I felt lost. It would, of course, have been better to buy the movie ticket for some strangers out there rather than myself and this damsel.

Everything went even worse when she said she had a thing or two to tidy up back home. I thought of what I could do, and so I decided to be yet another punkish gentleman. I asked to see her off, but she insisted on leaving alone.

This is the night that made me embark on my girl-to-bed-convincing research. Well, I ended up belonging to the school of thought, which holds that how to convince a girl to sleep with you is a straightforward thing to do.

I figured out my mistakes after becoming a pro in this field. The first pathetic mistake I made was our meeting location. I am smiling as I am putting this down. A cinema or any place of its kind is the worst place to meet with a girl you plan to rumble in bed or the sofa with.

The Magic Actions that Convinces Any Girl to Sleep with You

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As a man, if you believe that only excess money and good body structure attracts a girl, you are in the age where even the Early Men would not want to be. If this were the case, I’d be one of those living this life without sex. Yes, you read it right; “I’d be one of those living this life without sex.” My body packs don’t number up to 2, which means that I don’t have a 6-pack body. Intriguingly, I have a bodily deformity which should bar me from getting a girl to bed, but it does not.

We are dealing with how to convince a girl to sleep with you here, and as a matter of fact, it is the emotion of a girl that matters in this context.

Powerful Lines that Convinces a Girl

One of the supposedly best but vague methods used by guys to convince a girl is the appraisal method. This pathetic method involves the use of sentences like;

“Hi beauty, I love and respect you so much.”

“You look like my mum when she was 16.”

“No man will see and walk past you by the road.”

“I will deal with anyone who disagrees with you over anything.”

Appraisal methods do not work on a girl whose p***y you want to mess with. Only a successful appeal to her emotions will win her to bed. Appraisal methods only come in when you’ve successfully established your image in her brain. Since you naturally want to pull off her bra, her pant and look in between her legs, hit her emotions, and hit it very hard.

But first, you should consider your meeting points in some very sexy and relatively hush kind of spots. Don’t go to attention or eye-seeking places like cinemas the way I did. On every meeting;

  • Devour her sexual sense with a natural chat
  • Brush off those appraisal talks
  • Give concise answers to all her questions and question her often to eliminate silence
  • You have to assure her pussy that she will be making no mistake because she’s trying to get an assurance like this from you but unable to ask

So, let’s get there and have you put her in that bed very quick!

How to Convince Any Girl To Sleep with You (9 Tips)

1) Be Casual, Flush the Gentleman Style

Like seriously? You do not want to be a gentleman now because you are not her boyfriend. Do not forget that this is all about taking off her pink pant. I can strongly attest to the fact that putting up a gentleman approach towards a girl you want to mess with is not one of the sturdy ways on how to convince a girl to sleep with you. For so many reasons, you do not just want to be a man on a suit. Be a man on jean and some other regular outlook.

The girl in question is not after make-believe; she is more interested in sincerity. The sincerity is that you are putting giving your possible best in pulling that stimulating visual effect.

Do you think she cares about how nice you look? Okay, unless you want to make her your girlfriend, she is only interested in arousal. She is a lady and will not tell you what to do to get her. Ladies expect you to have the mind of a god. How do you have the mind of a god? By simply predicting them. What is here to predict is that she needs you to be that man that she doesn’t have to advise on how best to approach her.

  • She does not expect an overly holy dude.
  • What her pant covers is not interested in something that must wear gold for penetration.
  • Are you insane with the gentleman style? Dude, you gotta flush that. Don’t be rough but check out the regular-guy technique and embrace it.
  • Not being too down to earth shows your true self, and that is the self she needs to be able to judge her every step with you.

When I chose to be ‘Gentle Jack’ to that damsel in my high school days, I know how disastrous it turned out and you, of course, read how to f**k up it turned out. I do not want any girl you’re trying bed to consider you a punk no matter your age.

2) Bond Her with Trust

Nothing brings a girl down to earth most than trust. If a girl trusts you, she can sleep with you even if her man is the President of your country. When I first discovered this is my girl, I thought it was just her.

Being a flirt, I began to look out for this factor in other babes whose panties I shifted. After my assessment, I discover that 70 out of 70 girls can do anything around you if they trust you. Of this 70, about 30 will require you to work a little bit harder if you want to win their body into bed.

All you need is to make her feel super safe around you. You sure do wonder how to convince a girl to sleep with you by making her trust you.

  • On how to convince a girl to sleep with you, being real with her steals you her trust. She knows at this point that you are not pretending.
  • Do you think she doesn’t know? She knows you will eventually want to shift her pant once it is evident that she trusts you around her.

My first ever love-making came as a result of trust. She trusted me enough that she could stand naked in front of me for fun. The least I will do is to tease her sweet body playfully.

3) Talk Cool and Sugar it with a Bit of Dirty

While you talk cool, the occasional dirty things you say get the girl like, “yeah, this dude got them vibes.” You could equally go crazy saying these nasty things with her

  • Oops, I think I’m sighting your tits.
  • I’m feeling a movement within me. Oh, it’s my dick; it just can’t help having you around
  • While we were walking down here, I was staring at your butt. Girl, what you got behind could bend my dick.
  • If only you knew how naughty I’m growing inside right now, you’d just rent us a bed.

The above and many more vibes are just the ‘Busta Rhymes’ required to show how dirty you’re getting. If you hide your mind, you fail. How then do you open? No other way than to talk dirty. Chats like this reveal to a girl that you seriously wouldn’t mind spanking her from behind.

There is this girl I sexted within 2014. I chatted dirty, to a point where she couldn’t hold it any longer, she messaged me that she felt like messaging herself to where I am. When I asked why, she said, “dude, this chat is getting on my nerves. I could do anything with you right now.” I ceased this chance to burst her head by sending more of how I felt naturally. The next day began with her butt in my corner. As you can see, such is the power of dirty chats.

4) Make Her Feel an Increased Sexual-self Worth

Successfully getting a girl to trust you requires just one magic to obtain a key that you could use to unlock her legs anytime you, please.

The magic of letting her know how much the world would do just to cuddle with her.

The baby girl just wants you to tell her those things she hears men say women in movies.

Are you finding it tough on how to convince a girl to sleep with you after various trials? Then the mistake you made or what your procedure left out is your failure to let her know how sweet and well-packaged her body is. It should not be strange to you that women love being told how sexy they look. Don’t tell her that she is the angel of your life because she knows you are lying and even if she does not think so, she probably is unsure whether you mean it or not. Rather, tell her sweet, sexy, luxurious her body is.

Let her know that maybe her creator used finer sand in creating her. And probably more sand in molding her front and back side.

I was innocently seated the other day, and a colleague walked up to me and said, “tell me I look so sexy and busty.” I was about repeating the same when some lousy luck fellow said to her, “You are my angel.”

She sighed and excused him, giving me the chance to say how curvy she was. This earned me a minute hug, and I stole a kiss on someone’s girl. She didn’t mind. I was real and not fake.

5) She Must understand your intense

Do you love her or just wanting to ease your lust? Well, I don’t care about this because it is all about her. She knows already that it is the love you want. If she did not want love, she’d never come around again.

An evil player will promise girl heaven and earth just to sleep with her. Such is not the ideal girl-to-bed convincing man I intend to build with this write-up. I want you to be a natural fellow going for what he desires. You could still follow this method up if your stubborn girlfriend insists on sex after marriage.

For you to open up to her does not spoil anything; it instead pictures you to be a sincere and non-punkish man.

The wrong way of making her understand you’re intense;

  • Poor way of disclosing your lust after her
  • Not giving her the answers she needs
  • Clapping her ass (you are disrespecting her)

Instead of doing the above, try not to be sonorous and make her understand that you are human — Rally round the fact that her pleasure is rested assured when she opens her legs. Every woman loves to be satisfied in bed and will take chances. Even married women still pay outsiders to do what their husbands can’t.

6) Devour Her with Your Flesh

By this, I mean touching. Caress her every little responsive time you get. The best place to start devouring her is her wrist. It is effortless to reach out to her wrist and do not let go, once her hand is fitted with yours. A girl may shake off your grip on any part of her body but not the hand. The hand is a natural part to hold and so, take advantage of it. It is the pathway to accessing other parts, including where her fragile pant guards.

Girls normally would smile when their hands are held. The smile comes not because of your hand but because of how they are being held. In essence, don’t hold her as though you’re handling a piece of wood.

7) Trust Me; a Kiss is Very Necessary

Not kissing her depicts that nothing will happen. Allow the kisses to come naturally and don’t force it. The best way to find out whether to kiss, especially when she’s not long known be you is to look long into her eyes. Often, how to convince a girl to sleep with you dies down to kisses. I discovered that kisses should change as the conversation or whatever goes on. This means syncing a kiss with the tempo it suits plays a massive role in the affair. Be mindful with your kind of kisses and also, make kisses change per phase.

The final phase of kiss usually ends her in bed. This phase should contain lots of foreplay to chain her abruptly to your desires. Give no chance and take all the chances.

kissing as a way to convince a girl to sleep with you

8) When She Talks Dirty, Tease Her Playfully

It is your responsibility as the man to keep the conversation active at its best. When the conversation stays lively, it transits into a new phase. A phase where she begins to flow with your dirty talks. It usually comes after a series of kisses. So, kisses should come often.

Again, 7 out of 10 girls will remain stiff to dirty talks, but this can be conquered with persistent touches and deeper dirty talks. As she gives in, laugh at words, don’t take them seriously. Use this moment to study her deeply. She is maybe revealing the extent of her fall for you.

9) Show Fluidity and Never Use Force

Being rigid is like being unresponsive. The girl will feel you are losing interest or that she is not worth it. Make constant use of your brain and advance based on her body language. The only way to get a positive or greenlight body language from her basis on how you conduct yourself. Showing fluidity ensures some form of impossibility for her to have a rethink of her actions. Being rigid is more like running outta gas, and it is the more reason why you should use your brain constantly. Always think of something, be it something to say or do.

  • She did not come out to be stared at
  • Something brought her out; yeah and it wasn’t to be told what Aristotle and Plato look like
  • You can afford telling stories but make it very brief because her pussy is itching. For you to access her itching pussy, you must do the needful, and the needful is to turn her on. Not turning her on means end of the road.


Ladies? Hmm, they are the most pretentious being out there. A girl thinks you will never know when she is wet down there. But her actions and changes in behavior to your advances will expose her. The moment you’re aware of her wetness, inform her of it, and she’ll give up the pretense.

A girl naturally expects you to understand her, she will never tell you what’s up within her but will give you the room to uncover everything within her; therefore, you should cease the chance. Do not use force because some girls require a little more of talking and time. Adjust until you slip your fingers inside her panties.

If you want to know how to pleasure a woman, you need to think about turning her on with her mind. It’s not all about touching, it’s about suggestion too. 

We all want to do our best to please our partners. The problem is, nobody is the same as anyone else. So, what works for one person may not and probably won’t work for another! There is no right or wrong answer when it comes to learning how to pleasure a woman.

It’s just about what works for her. Of course, that doesn’t help you when you don’t know here 100% yet! What you need to remember is that what works for you, probably won’t automatically work for her.

When it comes to knowing how to pleasure a woman and turn her on, men think about how they like being turned on, and then apply it to a woman.

But the thing is, women are different.

If we had penises, sure, then we would get turned on by dick pics and text messages that start with, “hey.” However, that’s not the case, fellas. You need to think like a woman if you want to turn her on. That means turning her mind on as much as her body.

[Read: 25 Sexy Texts To Send Your Partner]

What do women like while making love?

That’s a very loaded and wide-ranging question! As we’ve just mentioned, everyone is different but we can be quite general here and give you a few ideas on what to think about.

Most men, not all but most, are visual creatures. They’re turned on by what they see and that usually does the trick. However, most women are different. They need to be turned on mentally and emotionally before they start to feel the tingling of physical pleasure too.

A woman needs to feel safe and secure with her partner to really let go and focus on enjoyment. Remember, not all women find it easy to reach orgasm every single time and some never manage it. You’ve no chance of helping her reach the big O if you don’t make her feel at ease and comfortable with you. [Read: 20 Seductive Ways to Blow The Mind Of Your Partner]

That doesn’t mean you need to make everything super-romantic all the time, because some women like spontaneous sex too!

But, you do need to go beyond the visual. You need to get her imagination firing and you need to talk to her in a way that makes her think sexy thoughts, rather than just see it in front of her.

If you’re not sure how to do all of the above, let’s check out a few moves to help you learn how to pleasure a woman. [Read: The 10 Most Arousing Erogenous Zones for Women All Men Should Know]

How to pleasure a woman – 19 moves that appeal to almost all women

Before you read any further, let’s reiterate this once more – you should know that every woman is different. However, there are general acts that will turn most women on and help them reach the highs of pleasure.

So, if you try something from this list and it isn’t doing the trick, keep moving forward and try something else. You’ll hit the spot, it just may take a couple of tries with a new partner.

If you pay attention, this will be a breeze. Here’s how to pleasure a woman.

1. Be yourself in bed

We know you want to look like a man in bed, and trust us, you are. But don’t force it. Don’t focus on trying to impress her, but instead just focus on the moment.

If you’re spending too much time trying to impress her, either with your acrobatics or by flexing and skulking around the bed, then you move the attention away from pleasuring her and turn it into an ego thing. It’s sex, not a competition. [Read: How to Have Phone Sex Like a Pro]

2. Don’t play the guessing game

Sure, you can spend some time figuring out what she’s into – nibbling her earlobes, licking her neck – that’s all fine and dandy.

But if you’re not getting a response, then just ask her straight up what turns her on. That way, you cut through all the crap and can focus on pleasing her the way she wants to be pleased.

3. Take it up a notch with plenty of foreplay

Focus the majority of your time on foreplay. The sex is going to happen eventually, but what really turns women on is foreplay.

We love kissing, touching, licking, and biting. It’s sensual and it gets us going. Many men jump past this, but it’s crucial if you want the sex to be passionate and, well, wet. [Read: 13 Ways to Give Your Partner Multiple Orgasms.]

4. Don’t rush!

If you want to know how to pleasure a woman, for God’s sake, take your time. There’s really no need to rush, unless you’re having a quickie. So, just enjoy the moment.

Learn your partner’s body and just have fun exploring it. You’re already naked with them, so you might as well take it all in. [Read: How Can I Seduce Him And Turn Him On? (Part1)❤️]

5. Switch up the routine

Don’t be shy trying out new things. In fact, we appreciate it when you want to try new things. Sometimes, it won’t work, but the point is that you’re not stuck in the 1,2,3 sex routine which makes us pass out midway through sex.

If you want to learn how to pleasure a woman, you need to surprise her and regularly bring out new things to try!

6. Don’t focus on just one body part

Men love breasts and vaginas. We completely understand that. However, women have so many erogenous zones that get ignored in the meantime.

Not every woman gets turned on when you play with their breasts. Instead, they may be turned on when you lick or kiss their neck instead. You need to explore this and of course, the only way to know what works for her is to ask her.

7. Know what hits the G-spot

We all have a G-spot. However, for men and women, it’s slightly different. The best position to reach her G-spot is doggy style. While doing doggy, put your hand on her clitoris and rub it… that’ll get her going.

8. Don’t forget about kissing

We know it’s all hot and sweaty and you’re focusing on having sex, but kissing is very much a part of it. Women love kissing during sex because it makes us feel more connected and wanted by our partners. So, kiss, kiss, kiss.

9. Go down on her

Dear God, just do it… if you REALLY want to know how to pleasure a woman. We go down on you guys, so we’re not sure what the problem is. We even swallow your cum, so, get over it.

Some men have such a phobia of eating pussy, but it gives us so much pleasure. We recommend the “figure 8” technique – it’s pretty self-explanatory. [Read: 10 Solid Ways To Make Sex More Intense And Intimate]

10. Be slightly aggressive

Women love men who take what they want. So, be a little aggressive. If you’re worried about how aggressive you are, pull her hair lightly or smack her ass. She’ll let you know if she wants more or less.

So, just test her comfort level and how much aggression turns her on.

11. Understand the female anatomy

If you want to go down on her, you best know where the clitoris is. Or else you’ll be doing, well, we don’t know what you’ll be doing down there, and neither will she. Google it, watch some porn, whatever you have to do to educate yourself – just do it.

12. Don’t forget the anus – but tread carefully

People are so uncomfortable about the anus, however, that’s where hundreds of nerve endings are, so you should know this, it feels good to have somebody down there.

As long as they’re clean, you should have no problem with exploring that part of the body. However, not all women are happy with that part of their body being touched, let alone anything else, so you need to learn how she feels about this first.

You could ask her, that’s always the best route. However, simply touching her ass and listening to her reaction should also give you an idea of how she feels about this part of her body. [Read: Sex Therapy]

13. Start turning her on way before the bedroom

Don’t just wait until the music turns on and the lights dim down for you to start turning her on. Man, start that way in advance.

Get the dirty texts going while she’s at work, grab her ass while she’s walking through the front door. Women need some time to get turned on, so get her worked up earlier in the day.

You can easily send a few sexts while she’s at work or doing whatever it is she’s doing during the day. It will get her imagination firing and that’s what you need when learning how to pleasure a woman. [Read: How to Prepare for Sex: 19 Things You MUST Do to Enjoy It Way More]

14. Compliment her

We want to feel desired. Obviously, everyone wants to feel desired. It’s what we all strive for. So, while having sex with her, compliment her.

Now, don’t overdo it, we can tell when it becomes disingenuous. But in that moment, if you think she looks beautiful, say it. Just don’t go down the cheesy route – we don’t need cringeworthy lines.

15. Exercise

If you’re worried about your stamina, then start working out. Get that blood pumping and your cardiovascular system going so that you don’t have that fear when it’s time to have sex. You need to take care of yourself. Plus, women get turned on when they see a sweaty guy at the gym.

16. Don’t focus on your orgasm

Okay, sex is about you, but it’s also about her. So, don’t focus so much on your dick. So many guys just focus on pleasing themselves, and in the meantime, they totally ignore the woman’s needs.

It’s not always about you, so share the pleasure. If anything, the ability to make her feel great is a reflection of your prowess! [Read: Secrets To Finding Sexual Chemistry And Keeping It Juicy]

17. Try some dirty talk

Remember when we said that you need to get her imagination going and turn her mind on? That means getting her hot before you even touch her.

Try some dirty talk and see how she responds. Some women feel a little awkward going this, but if you move into it slowly, you may find that it drives her crazy with desire.

18. Ask her about her fantasies

For many women, simply talking about their fantasies is a huge turn on and that can translate to major fireworks in the bedroom.

Ask her what her fantasies are and whether she’d ever want to try them. Be sure to share yours too. You’ll both be halfway to the bedroom before the conversation is over! [Read: How to Have Phone Sex Like a Pro]

19. Listen to what she wants

We talked about asking her what she wants in bed, but you also have to be sure to listen. If you want to learn how to pleasure a woman, you need to listen to her and respond.

Don’t just ask to tick a box, make sure you listen and do what she asks, as long as it’s something you’re comfortable with. When a guy takes the time to listen, it tells her that he wants her to feel good and there’s nothing sexier than that. [Read: 24 Sexy Text Messages to Initiate a Dirty Conversation with Anyone]

The secrets to pleasuring a woman

Learning how to pleasure a woman isn’t that difficult. It’s really about respect and care for the woman you’re with, and that’s something you should be doing anyway!

By focusing your attention on her, the sex you have will be better for both of you. Instead of just thinking of penetration or finishing the deed as the moment of pleasure, focus on enjoying every inch of her body instead.

Remember that not all women find it easy to orgasm, not as most men do. Understand that fact and do what you can to help her.

By seeing things through her eyes, you’ll not only give her the best time possible, but you’ll enjoy it ten times more too.

So now that you know how to pleasure a woman and what turns them on, it’s time that you start putting these tips to use. The sooner you start, the better.

It’s easy for sex to become a little mundane occasionally. Learn how to spice things up with a well-timed seductive tease. They’ll be thirsty for more if you these 20 Seductive Ways to Blow The Mind Of Your Partner

Has your sex life become a little samey? Do you tend to go for the same moves all the time? Perhaps it feels safe and enjoyable but could it be taken to another level? If you’re keen to put the sizzle back into your sex life, it’s time to learn how to weave in a seductive tease, completely out of the blue.

There’s just something super erotic and sexy about your partner slowly taking off their clothes specifically for you to watch. People get entranced by it.

How do you think strip clubs gained so much popularity? It wasn’t because of the food or drinks. Of course, it’s just about stripping, it can be about giving a little and then taking it away, or maybe throwing in a little unexpected dirty talk.

Learn the art of the seductive tease and your sex life will never be boring again!

This feature is all about teasing a guy with your sexual wiles and naughtiness. But if you’re looking for innocent and flirty ways to tease a guy, use this guide on how to tease a guy and make him realize he likes you.

What is a seductive tease exactly?

We know what you’re thinking, all these sex-related terms and it’s hard to know what they mean sometimes. Basically a seductive tease is exactly what it says on the tin.

You’re teasing your partner in a seductive way. You’re seducing them with your body and your actions, or even your words, but you’re not going the whole way – you’re teasing what is to come.

A few examples of a seductive tease include:

1. Starting to pleasure them and then stopping, teasing them a little and keeping them on the edge

2. A sexy dance for just your partner, e.g. a lap dance

3. A striptease

4. Whispering in their ear what you’re going to do to them later

5. Or, whispering in their ear how horny you are and what you want them to do to you

6. Playing with your food in a way that is overtly sexual, whilst maintaining eye contact with them

7. Sending them a text with a naked or semi-naked photo of you, waiting for them

Now you get the general idea of what a seductive tease is and for the most part, it’s a super-sexy striptease. Perhaps you’ve tried it before, or maybe you’ve wanted to try but never had the confidence. The key here is exactly that – confidence. If you don’t feel it, fake it. As you see their reaction to what you’re doing, you’ll feed off it and start to feel strong and more than capable of showing your partner the very best time they’ve ever had.

You should always make an effort to turn on your partner

Life can get in the way a lot and before you know it, it’s been two weeks and you haven’t so much as made out with your partner. It happens. But just like anything else in your relationship, your sex life needs to be nurtured. It won’t just carry on naturally after a while.

You need to be making the effort to arouse your partner and turn them on. Of course, they also need to show the same attention to you – it’s give and take.

Show them that you still want to be sexy for them. Without doing this, you’ll end up having less and less sex and you’ll end up resenting each other more and more because of the lack of sex. [Read: The 45+ Best Sex Positions Every Couple Should Try]

Sometimes, it’s also about learning how to be seductive. Remember, seduction is a way of life and an art. Here’s a full guide on how to be seductive in everything you do and turn anyone on just by your mere presence.

How to perform a seductive tease that’ll leave your partner drooling

seductive tease

There really isn’t a single way that’s better than another when it comes to seducing your partner. You know them better than anyone.

That being said, there are certain things you should keep in mind the next time you want to perform a seductive tease for your lover and leave them begging for more. Think about what they like, and weave that into your routine.

1. Know what they like

As we just mentioned, you know your partner better than anyone else and that means you know what they like in bed.

In order to give them a really sexy strip tease or another type of seductive tease, you’ll need to think about those things. You need to be able to play to their desires so it can be the most effective effort possible. [Read: 10 Solid Ways To Make Sex More Intense And Intimate]

2. Play up to their fantasies

We all have them and your significant other definitely has them. If you aren’t sure what they are, just ask them. A lot of people get embarrassed about their fantasies for some reason, so you may have to work for a little while before you get a straight answer from them.

Never push them however, they’ll tell you when they’re ready – you just need to sow the seed in their mind first.

3. Slip into something sexier to slip out of

We realize how contradicting this sounds, but just trust us. If you try to do a seductive tease while shimmying off really tight jeans, it won’t have the same effect.

For that reason, it’ll be way easier and hotter if you simply throw on something a little sexier. This can be anything from a sundress to some naughty lingerie. Anything that makes you partner’s eyes pop will do the trick.

Of course, it also has to be something you’re comfortable in too. It needs to make you feel sexy to help you appear confident and oozing with sex appeal. It’s not easy to try and be sexy when you’re wearing something that you can’t breathe in.

4. Make it a surprise

Can you imagine how amazing it would be for your significant other to walk in after a long day to you standing there ready for a seductive tease? They’ll be overjoyed!

So, make it a surprise. Don’t give them any clue about what they’ll receive when they get home.

5. Or, sext them a preview

If you want to get the anticipation rolling earlier in the day, send them a naughty sext with a preview of what they’ll get later. Show them a little sneak peek of what’s under your lingerie. That’s the very definition of a seductive tease and doing this will immediately get them excited.

They’ll be thinking about what you’re going to do all day and they’ll look forward to that seductive tease when they walk through the door.

6. Dim the lights

There’s nothing better than mood lighting. You can change the entire purpose of a room if you have the right lighting. That means you’ll want to light some candles and turn the lights down.

Not only does this immediately suggest something sexy, it’s also very flattering and you’ll feel super-confident in your seductive tease.

7. Turn up the tunes

Music is sometimes even more important than lighting. If you have the wrong music playing, it can be really distracting and your tease won’t be as effective. Put together a really naughty playlist with some great striptease music and make sure it’s playing while you go about your business.

This might also help you to feel more confident because you can focus on the rhythm and the beat, therefore taking your attention away from what you’re doing.

8. Sit them down

It’s hard to do a seductive tease if your partner is standing in the middle of the room. Get a chair and force them to sit down. Not only is this demanding behavior really hot, but the entire thing will be a lot easier for you. Y

ou can walk around them, sit on their lap, and even whisper naughty things in their ears from behind. All of that is a lot harder if they’re standing.

If you really want to turn things up a notch, you could gently tie their wrists to the back of the chair. The fact that they’re dying to touch you and can’t will drive them crazy with lust. [Read: How to Have Phone Sex Like a Pro]

9. Slowly strut toward them while undoing some buttons

This shows you mean business, if you have buttons, that is. There’s something really hot about someone slowly inching closer to you as they undo their clothes.

In order to make this even sexier, wear your partner’s button up shirt. But, for maximum impact, wear something sexy yet comfortable to you.

10. Don’t let them touch you for a long time

Have a “hands off” rule. They’re not allowed to do anything but admire you with their eyes. This will not only drive them nuts, but they’ll be itching to get their hands all over you when they’re finally allowed to.

I mentioned tying their hands to the chair and you could opt for this, or simply say you’re going to if they don’t behave and see how they react.

11. Give them views you know they love

If you’re a woman and you know your man is a booty guy, turn around and show him what you’ve got. He loves it and wants to see it. If your man is a boob guy, wear something that accentuates your breasts to his liking and get really close to his face. It’ll be enough to tip him over the edge.

12. Use your hands generously – on yourself

Don’t even touch your partner at first. Instead, use your hands on yourself. This is a fantastic way to make your partner jealous. They’ll see just how much you’re turning yourself on and this will make them ridiculously horny for you, too.

13. Walk around them

As they’re sitting in the chair, get really close and just walk around them. The great part about this is that you can be really unpredictable. They don’t know what you’re doing or why you’re moving behind them. It’ll heighten that anticipation and make the seductive tease all the more attractive.

14. Whisper in their ear

While you’re behind them, lean forward and very gently whisper in their ear. Let your lips linger on it for a second before moving away. This is a really great way to tease them and use some dirty talk at the same time. [Read: 50 Naughty Text Messages That Will Make Her Wet and Wild for You]

15. Strip off a piece of clothing with each distinctive move

If you’re walking forward, slowly roll off those tights. As you move to sit on their lap, take off your top. Each distinct movement should be accompanied with you taking off a piece of clothing. This will slow things down and really allow that anticipation to burn.

16. Wear a scent that reminds him of you

Be sure to wear your signature scent because that way you’ll be all around him in terms of his senses. He’s seeing you, he’s feeling you, he’s smelling you, you’re totally flooding his system and sending him into overload!

17. Tell him what you want to do

As you’re teasing him, tell him what you want him to do to you, or what you want to do to him. Say it quietly, in almost a whisper, but make sure you maintain eye contact as you do so. It shows him that you’re totally turned on and can’t wait for the real fun to start.

If you’re not experienced in dirty talk, practice in the mirror on your own first.

Have a short speech or fantasy that you can move in and out of, without it sounding too overly practiced. The more turned on you get, the breathier your voice will become which is extra sexy too.

18. Or stay strong and silent

If you’re not into dirty talk or you don’t think your partner will respond in the right way, you can simply stay silent. That’s just as sexy as being vocal. The key to a silent seductive tease is to maintain eye contact the entire time and be expressive in your face.

Touch yourself and gasp, closing your eyes and letting him see the way you feel. This can be just as effective, if not even more so, when it comes to turning him on.

19. Know when to get down to business

At some point, you need to stop the teasing and actually do what you’ve been building up to. The key to a successful seductive tease is to know when the point of seduction has ended and when it’s time to get on with it.

Watch your partner and judge the right moment. Of course, make sure you get to the end of your striptease or whatever else you’re working on, but if things start to move a little faster than you’d planned just go with it!

20. Mix up your seductive teases occasionally

It’s a great idea to seduce your partner regularly but not too regularly! If you do the same thing all the time, it’s not going to be as impactful.

Of course, they’ll be turned on, but not as much as if you surprise them with something new. Also, don’t feel that you always need to be the one doing the seducing, they have a role to play too! [Read:How to have great sex according to Johnnywriter]

Mix up your seduction technique occasionally. Try a lap dance, sexting, dirty talk, and then keep going back to your striptease occasionally, but mixing things up to add in new flavors. [Read: How to Make a Guy Horny & Hard Just By Sitting Next to Him]

The occasional seductive tease can take a dull sex life and transform it into something extraordinary. Not only that, but you’ll have a sexy little secret that’s only for the two of you. This will make you feel closer and will enhance your intimacy beyond measure.

 [Read: How Can I Seduce Him And Turn Him On? (Part1)❤️]

There are so many reasons to give your lover a seductive tease. The next time you want to hypnotize them with your body, follow these tips and you’ll be irresistible!

I Will highlight and explain The 10 Most Arousing Erogenous Zones for Women All Men Should Know. Keen to make the lady in your life crazy with desire? Learn about the best erogenous zones for women. That way, she won’t be able to get enough of you! 

We’re talking about erogenous zones for women here, but before that, let’s talk about men for a bit.

We don’t want to generalize, but it usually doesn’t take much to get a man sexually excited. Show him a photo of a naked woman or just grab his crotch, and he’ll probably be good to go.

Women, however, are a different story.

For the ladies, good sex is something like a Beethoven symphony; there’s the overture, the crescendo, and the final climactic *pun not intended* moment.

In other words, women prefer to enjoy the scenic route. While men prefer to get from point A to point B as quickly as possible. That means you need to know the top erogenous zones for women to make all of this happen.

Getting your lady wet and horny in bed requires you to push the right buttons to get her in the mood. By buttons, we mean a woman’s erogenous zones. Erogenous zones could also be referred to as a woman’s sweet spots; the metaphorical switches that turn her lust into overdrive. (How to Prepare for Sex: 19 Things You MUST Do to Enjoy It Way More)

Wait, what is an erogenous zone?

An erogenous zone is an area of the body that is packed with nerve endings and often drives a woman wild. For sure, men have erogenous zones too, and some are shared between the two. Yet there are some specific areas that are only for women and when you touch, kiss, lick, or generally caress this area, she’s sure to get way more wet and wild.

Stimulating an erogenous zone is the best way to help your partner to be super turned on and ready for action.

It will make sex much better because she’ll be wet and ready to go. You can easily incorporate all of this into foreplay but you need to learn about the top erogenous zones for women before you start.

Contrary to popular opinion, you don’t have to just go straight in with the breasts, clitoris, and vagina. There are lesser-known hotspots that will drive her crazy with desire too

The top erogenous zones for women that make them horny

While we are all familiar with the common fun parts between the legs, there are far more unsuspecting parts of her body that will easily get you into her good graces. Of course, you first need to know where they are and how to touch them properly.

Remember that every woman is different. You might meet a lady who adores having her feet touched, but another may hate it. It’s a personal thing but these erogenous zones for women will normally help you aim towards the right areas for serious sexy fun.

1. Feet

First, you don’t need to have a foot fetish to enjoy a good, sensual foot rub. Both sexes enjoy the feeling of their feet getting caressed. Women, on the other hand, have more sensitive feet—especially on the skin near their toes.

Exploit this by oiling up your hands and gently pressing the flesh of her soles with an upward motion.

If you’re up to the task, and if her footsies are clean enough for your satisfaction, you can tease her by giving her toes a little nibble or a roll of the tongue during actual foreplay. 

2. Head and scalp

If you’ve ever experienced a head massage, you will not contest the fact that it’s one of the most relaxing and soothing feelings ever.

The human scalp is home to thousands of nerve endings, which makes it highly sensitive to touch. This is certainly one of the best erogenous zones for women.

A good way to get her in the mood is by gently running your fingers outwards from the crown of her head to the edges of her hairline. Use a motion like grasping a basketball gently. This will definitely send shivers down her whole body and make her warm and fuzzy.

3. The abdomen is one of the best erogenous zones for women

Women can get pretty self-conscious about the look of their abdomen. Yet, little do they know how good it will feel if they let their man play with it a little bit.

The lower abdomen—particularly the area below the belly button—is home to a network of nerves connected to the vagina. This means that fondling the skin of the abdomen is like “nudging” her vagina into arousal.

You should be careful though, as some women can find abdominal stimulation a little ticklish. Tease her into submission by planting a gentle kiss, drawing lines and circles with your finger, or signing your name on her belly with the tip of your tongue. 

4. The lips

Lips are meant to kiss and be kissed! The lips are an obvious erogenous zone and are readily capable of receiving pleasurable sensations due to their high concentration of nerve endings. There are a hundred times more than on the fingertips! So, they are sensitive to pressure, moisture, and temperature.

The act of kissing sends signals to the brain, which releases the feel-good hormones oxytocin and serotonin. This quickly translates into a higher state of sexual arousal.

However, be a creative kisser and don’t just sloppy kiss like a fish. Employ a combination of sucks, pecks, and nibbles to get her feeling good and wet.

5. The inner thighs

We bet you’ve seen this in a movie before. While driving a convertible down the freeway, the guy has one hand on the wheel while the other hand is caressing a beautiful woman’s inner thigh as she moans in sexual agony. This is pretty accurate, as that fateful patch of skin is near the vagina, and that makes it a powerful erogenous zone for women!

Think of the inner thigh as the switch to the floodgates. Manipulating it can get her wet and excited. You can achieve this by gently caressing her inner thigh with the tips of your fingers.

Stroke her inner thigh, gently moving upwards near her vagina. This will tease her into a sense of anticipation and she will enjoy the effects as one thing leads to another.

6. Ears

As a rule, body parts located on the head are sensitive to touch. The ears are no different. Ear stimulation can have varying results, ranging from ticklish giggles to low, erotic moans, so it is advisable to test the waters first before going full contact.

Start by tracing the curve of her ear, from top to bottom. Begin with the outer lobe and if she responds well, proceed to kiss her on the lobes and give her ears a gentle nibble. Continue to watch her responses as you run your tongue inside the cup of her ear.

While you’re at it, why not whisper something dirty to her in your bedroom voice to add fuel to her fire? 

7. Small of the back

To demonstrate how sensitive the small of your back is, try giving it a flat hand slap. Hurts, doesn’t it?

The small of the back is covered by a thinner patch of skin compared to the rest of your body, in addition to being located just millimeters above the base of the spinal cord. The small of the back is home to a bunch of nerve endings that will definitely hit her sweet spot if you touch her there.

One good way to arouse this specific erogenous zone for women is by giving a back massage. Take her top off and make her lie on her stomach. Gently run your hands from the small of her back upwards. Make sure that your thumbs are keeping the pressure on the trench of her spine while the rest of your fingers rest on the curve of her waist.

Once you’ve revved her engine up, bombard the small of her back with a lot of moist kisses and watch her writhe in pleasure. 

8. Nape of the neck

One of the best erogenous zones for women is the nape of the neck. This is another area chock-full of nerve endings and covered with a thin patch of skin. That’s why this area is the first to hurt when you get a sunburn.

Giving this area a great deal of attention is a good and quick way to get her horny.

Start by giving her a shoulder massage and work your way up to the back of her neck with gentle feather touches. A good indicator that she’s loving it is when she cranes her head to expose the back of her neck more. When that happens, time to bring in the lip work and plant as many kisses and nibbles as she wants.

9. Nipples – One of the most obvious erogenous zones for women

The female nipple is an erogenous zone that people are universally familiar with. Men are drawn to it. The nipples are one of the most sensitive parts of the body, and a part where stimulation leads to immediate sexual arousal; women can actually get orgasms from nipple stimulation.

The nipples, along with the clitoris, are both directly wired to the female brain center responsible for arousal.

However, this degree of sensitivity requires you to have great care when touching her nipples. Don’t be too rough when touching her and always pay attention to her responses.

A good way to start is by tracing circles on her breast. Start from the base and make smaller spirals, working your way up toward her nipple. Another way is to gently massage her breast with one hand while using your lips and mouth to caress her areola and nipples.

10. Clitoris

When it comes to erogenous zones for women, the clitoris is the crown jewel of the female body. With over 8,000 nerve endings in a patch of flesh the size of a raisin, it’s bound to do wonders.

However, don’t be fooled. Not all clitorises are alike and women respond to different types of clitoral stimulation.

Furthermore, the more nerve endings there are, the greater the likelihood of hurting her is if you touch the clitoris incorrectly. 

The main trick to achieve the best out of her clit is using featherlike touches. This type of touch is so light, it is almost not there at all. This kind of touch gives a strong sense of anticipation and will make her want more.

A good way to get her going from the berry is by drawing light circles around her clitoris, without actually touching her clit. Watch her reaction and work your way to a spiral to the center and then gently add pressure. 

Exploration is key for best results!

If you want to do your best to make the lady in your life crazy with lust, it’s important to experiment.

Remember, not all women are the same. Everyone likes to be touched differently, just as you like to be touched differently too.

That means you need to try different things, ask her what she likes, and listen to what she’s saying.

Also, when you touch her, pay attention to her responses. That will speak volumes in more ways than one! 

The next time you’re going to have sex, think of it as a road trip. The journey is equally important as *and is sometimes more fun than* the destination. So warm up your hands and explore the uncharted terrain keeping these erogenous zones for women in mind.

We’re always hearing that we could be having better sex, but don’t neglect these 10 Solid Ways To Make Sex More Intense And Intimate with a better orgasm, or a better relationship. But how often do we hear the nitty-gritty of how we can actually better understand our deepest desires and most embarrassing questions? Hisparadise has enlisted Johnnywriter, a sex therapist, to help us out with the details. No gender, sexual orientation, or question is off-limits, and all questions remain anonymous. Now, onto today’s topic: How to make sex more fun, intense, and intimate.

Q: My partner and I have been together for years. Sex is important to both of us, and we want to keep growing together in our relationship. We’re lucky that sex is pretty great between us, but we want it to be even better. We want to feel like we’re learning more about each other and deepening our connection.

A: Thanks for your question! It’s awesome that the two of you place such a high value on sex, and are continually looking for new ways to connect. Trust me, that is going to go such a long way in your relationship! Here are my tips for making sex as intimate, intense, and fun as possible.

1. Define What Intimacy Means To You

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First things first: What exactly do you mean by intimacy? What about intensity? These are powerful words which mean different things to different couples. The first thing the two of you should do is talk about what intimacy means in your relationship. What does intense sex feel like, both in the moment and afterwards? What’s the kind of emotional connection you’re aiming for? What was the best sex you guys ever had like? You can’t work toward a goal until you know what your goal is!

2. Set Yourselves Up For Success

If you want to have intense sex, you have to have the right atmosphere for connection. It’s hard to bond with each other if your cell phones keep buzzing, or if your pooch is pawing at your bedroom door. You guys may already do a good job of creating the space for intimacy, but it’s an important tip to remember.

You can do things in the moment, like turn off all electronics, or set the mood with soft music and candles. You can also make bigger-picture changes, like creating a weekly date night or planning weekend getaways.

3. Talk During Sex

Talking to your partner while you’re having sex is a great way to turn up the heat. Tell them what you want them to do to you. Tease them, and make them beg you to give them what they want. Describe to your partner exactly how their touches and kisses are making you feel. Even simple words of affection can make the two of you feel closer.

4. Make Eye Contact

Remarkably few people make sustained eye contact with each other during sex. It’s kind of funny if you think about it; you’re as physically close as two humans can be, yet you still can’t look each other in the eyes. Holding eye contact with your partner is one of the fastest paths to more intimacy. You may find yourself feeling surprisingly shy, so try gradually building up to longer periods of contact. Once you feel more confident, try keeping eye contact even as you orgasm!

5. Keep The Lights On

This is another quick but effective tip. Most people have sex at night with all of the lights off, so they don’t have the opportunity to truly see each other while they’re being intimate. Try having sex in the daylight, or keeping the lights on. Candles create a very nice glow, and you can easily modify the amount of light by adding more candles or blowing a few out.

See what it’s like to actually look at each other while you’re being intimate. Gaze at your partner’s entire body. In particular, letting them get a good look at your genitals while the lights are on can be insanely intimate.

6. Breathe Together

Take a cue from Tantric sex, and try breathing together when you’re being intimate. Press pause on whatever you’re doing, and try to synchronize your breath for a few moments. Looking each other in the eyes will make this even more intense. Or try placing your hand over your partner’s heart and feel them breathe in and out.

7. Play With Power Dynamics

The simplest thing you can do is say that one person is the boss for the evening, and the other person is at their mercy (make sure to talk about boundaries and agree on a safe word first). Or you can try playing with bondage, which increases the intensity. Putting your safety in another person’s hands requires an incredible amount of trust. It’s a vulnerable experience that can build a lot of intimacy.

8. Take Orgasm Off The Table

Orgasm is the cherry on top of the sundae when it comes to sex, but many people can get so overly goal-oriented that they don’t end up enjoying the parts leading up to it. I work with a lot of women who have yet to have their first orgasm, and many of them can get so focused on trying to figure out how to get there that they inadvertently tune out the experience of being with their partner.

Try making it a rule that neither you nor your partner will orgasm during a particular encounter. See if it allows you to deepen the experience and enjoy each moment of being with each other.

9. Change Your Tempo

Really slowing down and taking your time with each other is a great way to feel more present in the moment and more connected with each other. Move your way through each activity slowly. Really try to savor the experience, as if you were enjoying a multi-course meal at a fancy restaurant. Or you can go to the other extreme and try speeding things up with an intense quickie.

10. Masturbate In Front Of Each Other

You don’t even have to touch each other to create intimacy and intensity! Try masturbating in front of each other, either individually or at the same time. Masturbating is a personal activity (perhaps the most personal activity we engage in!), so bringing your partner into the experience can be very intense. This is an extremely erotic activity, and has the added benefit of helping each other learn how you like to be touched.

BONUS. Above All Else, Invite Vulnerability

There’s one common thread running through all of these tips: being vulnerable with each other. Trusting in each other, exploring your boundaries with each other, and showing your full selves to each other is the best way to create more intimacy and intensity in your relationship. Keep allowing yourselves to take these risks, and your sex life will be sizzling for decades to come.

Recognizing the 10 Signs You are Not Enjoying Sex With Your Partner Anymore is an important first step. But figuring out why? Well, that can be a bit trickier. Once you’ve ruled out health issues like depression, which can affect your desire and ability to have sex, it’ll be time to talk with your partner about other possible explanations.

By creating an open dialogue, it’ll make it easier to find solutions, while also keeping you close. And that is, in many ways, another inspiring reason to figure all this out. “Sex is bonding,” Johnnywriter, a relationship counselor tells Hisparadise. “When members of a couple have a strong intimate physical connection with each other, they feel closer and the relationship bond, including feelings of commitment and loyalty, are enhanced.”

To make sure all of that remains a priority, read on for the signs you need to work on sex life, all in the name of having a better time in bed — and creating a healthier relationship. You can purchase this eBook on sexual chemistry

1. You Put Off Having Sex And Always “Have Something Else To Do”

If you’re not thrilled with your current sex life situation, chances are you’ll be on the lookout for ways to avoid climbing into bed. “There’s always something that needs to be done — work, school, friends that seem more important than spending time with your other half,” Johnnywriter, a relationship expert and psychologist, tells Hisparadise.

While it’s fine to not be in the mood, if it becomes a pattern, “this usually means that something’s amiss about your emotional connection and/or physical connection with each other,” Johnnywriter says. And that’s definitely worth figuring out.

To start, look for ways to address underlying issues, such as anger, hurt feelings, or other relationship problems that could be impacting your feelings towards your partner, and thus your desire for sex. Then, begin working though the problems together, perhaps with the help of a therapist. Once you feel better mentally, you’ll likely go back to being in the mood.

2. You Fantasize About Somebody Else During Sex

It’s totally normal to fantasize during sex. If you think about a cute stranger for a few minutes, it doesn’t mean you despise having sex with your partner, or actually wish they were somebody else. But if you need to imagine others in order to get off, take note. “This is a telltale sign that something is not working in your current relationship,” Favour says.

It’s not great if, in order to enjoy yourself, you need to check out and mentally go elsewhere. Fantasies are all well and good, but it’s important to be present with your partner, too, in order to get the most out of sex. So think about why this is happening, and consider other ways to spice things up that don’t require you to glaze over.

READ THIS 5 Main Reasons Women Don’t Enjoy Sex — and How to Overcome Them

3. You’ve Actually Been With Someone Else

Fantasizing is one thing, but cheating is something else entirely. The classic, and accurate, sign that you may not be enjoying sex with your partner is […] engaging in a romantic experience or different type of sexual act with someone else.

Of course, cheating is a complex issue. Usually, it points to personal problems, including unmet needs in the relationship that are driving you to seek comfort and attention elsewhere. And if you keep these things a secret, and don’t give your partner a chance to change, it will impact your sex life.

On rarer occasions, the desire to cheat can also stem from an unsatisfying connection, including unfilled fantasies. It isn’t always easy to talk about these things, but it’s worth a try if your goal is to improve the sex you have with your partner — and save your relationship.

4. It Feels Like Sex Has Become A Chore

While not the most romantic thing, sometimes it’s necessary to schedule sex in a relationship, all in the name of guaranteeing time with your partner. It will help you both get the love and attention you need, no matter how busy your lives become. And it will ensure that you keep your connection strong.

That doesn’t, however, mean sex should feel like a chore. If it does, it could be a sign you’re not enjoying sex with your partner as much as you should.

If you’re just going through the motions, consider talking to your partner about ways to have more fun. Do you need to go on spicy vacation? Try new positions? Chat about a few shared fantasies? It can all help make sex fun again, and keep your spark alive.

READ MORE Want To Have Great Sex? Avoid These 19 Words

5. You Hardly Ever Fantasize About Your Partner

Another sign you aren’t enjoying sex? If “you don’t think or fantasize about your partner or look forward to being intimate,” Johnnywriter says. Of course, what you imagine when you’re alone is completely up to you, and may or may not include your partner 100% of the time.

But take it as a sign if you don’t daydream about them, look forward to getting it on, or feel butterflies after the fact. It likely means things have gotten a bit stale in the bedroom, and what you’re doing as a couple is no longer capturing your attention.

Again, this will be a great time to be honest and talk more often about how you’ve been feeling, including what might help make sex fun and exciting again. It’ll require both you and your partner working together in order to create the type of sex that leaves you thinking about the next day at work.

READ MORE The 45+ Best Sex Positions Every Couple Should Try

6. Your Partner Is Always The One Who Initiates Sex

While not everyone is the type to initiate sex, take note if you typically have the ability but just… don’t. Johnnywriter says, it may mean you’re not enjoying yourself. You’re no longer inspired, or looking forward to it, so you’re perfectly happy to continue watching Netflix well into the night.

When that’s the case, take things to another level with your partner. Ask them what they like best, when it comes to getting in the mood, and turn it into a sort of game. Would they love it if you sent texts throughout the day? Do they love a steamy picture? Try it out and see how it feels.

If you aren’t necessarily in the mood right away, knowing that you’re turning your partner on can ultimately be a turn on for you. And just like that you’ll be ripping each other’s clothes off.

READ MORE 8 things you can do to improve your sex life overnight.

7. You Don’t Feel Comfortable During Sex

It’s impossible to enjoy sex if you don’t feel comfortable, whether it be physically due to an illness, or mentally due to depression, or because of a self-esteem hang up. So if you no longer climb into bed and feel free to fully relax and enjoy yourself, you may have landed on your hang-up.

“This can often cause stress and makes it very difficult to feel sexually aroused,” McGough says. The best thing to do is tell your partner exactly what’s been holding you back, so you can work on it together. Chances are, whatever is holding you back is likely something they never even noticed, which can be quite comforting. They can assure you that you’re awesome, and there’s no reason to feel awkward or tense.

Of course, seeing a doctor if you’re experiencing pain or other health concerns is important, too. Sometimes you don’t realize how much a health problem was holding you back from enjoying sex, until that health problem is gone.

READ MORE 6 Secrets to Finding Sexual Chemistry And Keeping it Juicy

8. You’re Afraid To Talk About What You Want In Bed

It can feel weird to talk about what you do/don’t like in bed, but the more you do it the easier it will become, especially if you bear in mind how it will eventually lead to a more fulfilling sex life.

“Communicate with your partner by affirming what you like,” Dr. Tammy Nelson, a sex and relationship therapist, tells Hisparadise. Be honest in the lead-up to sex, as well as during sex, and provide positive direction.

Saying things like, “‘I love it when you go to the right,’ is much more affective and a better way to change your sex life than ‘I hate it when you go the left,'” Nelson says. It can be a part of your dirty talk, or a gentle suggestion. Over time, you’ll feel more confident speaking up, and your partner will be more informed, which will make for way better sex.

9. You Always Feel Disappointed After Sex

It’ll be pretty difficult to thoroughly enjoy sex if your needs aren’t being met, especially if your partner consistently lets you down or leaves you hanging. In fact, “one of the biggest reasons that women report for low desire or avoiding sex with their partner? Disappointment,” Nelson says. It’s only natural you won’t want to seek out sex, if it isn’t fun or fulfilling.

And that’s why, to guarantee yourself a better time, it can help to speak up. Your partner can’t make a change or try out all the right moves if they don’t know what you want or what they’re doing wrong. And vice versa. Again, communication is and always will be the best answer to most sex woes.

Keep in mind, though, that sex isn’t always going to be “perfect.” There will be nights when you’re both tired, or one of you is sick, and the sex is boring or nonexistent as a result. It’s only if this is an ongoing issues that you should be concerned.

10. You Think Sex Is Supposed To Be A Certain Way

If you talk with your friends about their sex lives — or even watch sexy movies or porn on a regular basis — it’s easy to feel like yours doesn’t measure up. So go ahead and get comments and critiques and wild expectations out of your head.

“There is no normal,” Johnnywriter. “Focus on what works for the two of you [and] don’t worry so much what other people say you should be doing. Work on what you need to enjoy it.”

For example, if you and your partner enjoy a relatively tame sex life, and it all feels really great and keeps you close, don’t feel as if you need to go out of your comfort zones in order to keep up with a friend’s freaky sex tales. If it’s working for you, that’s all that matters.


Low self-esteem can play a huge role in whether or not you enjoy sex, especially as it pertains to performance. In fact, one of the main reasons couples aren’t connecting is lack or interest, boredom, and the loss of self-esteem that can accumulate as a result

If things haven’t been too hot in the bedroom lately, it can really take a toll, and make it seem like you’re no longer on the same wavelength. It can even cause you to worry to the point you’re no longer having fun, or allowing yourself to be fully in the moment.

The best way to remedy this situation? You guessed it! Talk to your partner. If you’re feeling bored, tell them. If you’re struggling with depression, let them know. Together you can work on how to have a more fulfilling sex life, so you can officially have fun again.

In as much as sex is awesome, Sex can sometimes be demanding and confusing too. Want To Have Great Sex? I have 19 Things You Should Never Say During Sex. If you’ve been with your partner over a fairly long period of time, you’re probably in-sync with what he likes, what you like and the works. However, if you’re in a relatively new relationship and have not yet explored each other’s sexual virtues and vices, this article might come handy. Now everyone has a different type of sex drive, and figuring out your partner’s type will make your life a whole lot easier and your sex a whole lot better. And while that whole process may take a while, here’s some advice on where you can start…

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Talking during sex is not everyone’s cup of tea, but if you’re the kind who enjoys it and wants to initiate it to test the waters, make sure you know what you’re doing. Sometimes it doesn’t take much to turn someone off, especially if you’re blurting out things that throw him off. If you’re going to go there – do it well. To help you out, we’ve rounded off the top 19 things that you should absolutely refrain from saying during a hot lovemaking session. Take note, ladies!

1.  “I can’t feel it!”

2.  “You woke me up for that?”

3.  “Do you smell something burning?”

4.  “You’re being taped!”

5.  “But whipped cream is fattening!”

6.  “Can you please pass me the remote control?”

7.  “Don’t ruin my makeup”

8.  “Let’s not kiss.”

9.   “Are you in?”

Want To Have Great Sex? Avoid These 19 Words

10. “Why am I doing all the work?”

11.  “My ex loved this!

12.  “Perhaps you’re just out of practice…”

13.  “Okay, stop! I gotta go.”

14.  “I have a confession…”
15.“When would you like to meet my parents?”
16.  “You’re not hard enough.”
17.  “Are you going to cum?”
18.  “How many people have you slept with?”
19.  “I’m bored.”

One day a client asked me “Johnnywriter, How Can I Seduce Him And Turn Him On? (Part1) without going through any form of embarrassment?” she started by narrating this story.

There’s a guy who I’m really interested in, but there are all sorts of women throwing themselves at him and I need to stand out from the crowd.

I am not unattractive, but I don’t feel like I’m necessarily the hottest woman in the room either… I think I can look good if I really put in the effort.  I don’t have trouble with guys in general, but I really want this particular guy and since there’s competition, I really want to know how to seduce a man and how to hook a man’s interest.  Can you tell me what works best?

OK, I’m going to give you a road map on how to seduce a guy, but I’m going to need to break it into a few sections and I’m going to have to provide a disclaimer before we begin.

The Complete Guide To Seduce A Man

First off, I want to make it clear that my one and only goal in this answer is to show you how to seduce a man in a way that’s actually going to work in the real world. In order to do that quickly, I need to be blunt at times and I can’t be worried about whether or not I’m being politically correct or violating someone’s taboos…

Just know that my goal here is to help you get the results you want… let’s get started.

Your success in seduction is almost entirely dependent on your mindset…

I promise you, I am going to give you the play-by-play, do-this-not-that guide of what to do, but it will be entirely useless if your mindset is wrong.

Have you ever been around someone who was trying really hard to be funny… and everything they said and did reeked of a needy, desperate energy?

On the other hand, I’m sure you’ve been around people who don’t care whether or not they’re funny, but their way of being is just naturally funny… so you end up finding them hilarious without any effort on their part.

Seduction is similar… if you are desperate for it to work, you will embarrass yourself horribly trying to “act like” a seductress.  If you understand how a seductress thinks, views the world, and what her overall philosophy is, then you will probably automatically seduce people through your mindset alone…combined with the right moves, you’ll be an unstoppable force of nature.

Why do you want to seduce this man (or seduce men in general)?

To begin, we need to establish what our goal is here. Is your goal to casually hookup with him?  Is your goal to make him fall in love with you? Is your goal to get him to chase and pursue you?  Is your goal for him to want an exclusive relationship with you?  Is your goal to get out of the friend zone with a guy?

The fact that you want to seduce him as a means of getting what you want is fine (who doesn’t like to be seduced?), but it’s important for you to be clear about why … reason being, one of the biggest obstacles to a successful seduction is trying to seduce someone so you can feel better about yourself.

For example, maybe you want to seduce a guy into your bed, but the underlying reason is because you don’t really feel attractive, and you think that successfully seducing him will prove that you are.

Or maybe you want to get a particular guy to chase you to prove to yourself that you’re worthy of pursuit (because you don’t believe you are). And on and on… point is, if your goal in seducing a guy is to feel better about yourself, you’re going to be at a considerable disadvantage.

Why?  Because you won’t be able to be carefree in the seduction… every step will feel like your entire sense of self-worth is on the line, struggling to survive. There’s just no way you’ll be able to effectively seduce a man under that kind of pressure… which brings me to the first major requirement of successfully seducing a guy:

You don’t care how things turn out… (aka The Art of Not Caring)

One of the most important pieces in the seduction puzzle is that you are having fun every step of the way and you don’t really care how things turn out.

This is a radical departure from the typical behavior of many women, which is to fixate on one particular guy, obsess over him, and dream up some fantasy future (and then bounce between optimistically hoping it will work out and fearfully worrying that your fantasy won’t come true).

If you want to successfully seduce a man, you have to realize that behaving like that is going to completely destroy your ability to do so. Before you begin, you have to fully accept that you’re going to have fun and not stress over anything that happens.

You won’t dream up some fantasy future that you want to come true. You won’t obsess over what the guy is or isn’t doing. You won’t analyze his behavior. You’ll have no deluded beliefs that being with him will somehow make you happier, make you more complete, or make your life any better than it is right now.

You’ll just have fun in the moment and enjoy your interactions with him… and outside of the moments you’re with him, you won’t really be thinking about him at all.

If this sounds radically different than how you typically feel and act with men, then that’s great news. You now have the opportunity to get rid of a bunch of unhelpful, painful and ineffective habits and replace them with one simple new habit: being OK.

A seductress knows she’s OK in life… she’s not seeking well-being through how others respond to her (aka The Art of Being OK)

What do I mean by “being OK”? I mean that you realize that you’re OK right now… there’s no problem.  You’re OK with everything… everything that’s happened in your life, everything that is happening right now. You’re OK with the way things are in your life.  You’re OK… there’s no drama, no unresolved issues, no victim story, etc. You’re simply OK and that’s how you are… even when things don’t go as planned, even when something upsetting happens, even when everything falls apart… you’re always OK.

I’m not saying you become a robot devoid of emotions. What I’m saying is that you’re always in touch with your internal sense of OK-ness… you can be sad at a given moment and still know that you’re completely 100% OK. You can be angry and still know that you’re 100% OK.

When you can live like this, you’ll find that any bad mood or emotion flows through you rather quickly. Instead of sinking down deeper and deeper into a negative emotion and feeding into the mental drama, you will simply shift your attention to remembering that you’re OK, and in the grand scheme of things, there really is no problem.

The bottom line is this: Most people (men and women) spend their lives believing they have a problem (or multiple problems), then spend all their time and attention mindlessly chasing after solutions to their mind-created problems. They become completely self-absorbed and unable to be present to enjoy their moment-to-moment existence. Every moment of their life becomes a “means to an end,” in pursuit of the next solution to a problem.

That mental state is the opposite of seductive. In order to seduce, you must be OK, happy, and at peace with your life… this way, you have your attention available to guide the seduction forward. Moreover, your mood is stress-free, which is a very attractive energy in men and women…

Which brings me to the ultimate way to be stress-free throughout a seduction…

Have options (aka The Art of Not Putting All Your Eggs in One Basket)

If you fixate on one guy, you’re setting yourself up for a lot of stress. On the other hand, if you have several desirable options, then you’ll find it quite natural to feel OK no matter what ends up happening with any one particular guy.

This applies only if you haven’t agreed to be in an exclusive relationship. If you both explicitly decide that you’re going to be exclusive, that’s different. Until then, it is in your best interest to keep your options wide open and actively date around.

This serves a few important purposes:

  1. It prevents you from stressing or obsessing over any one particular guy.
  2. It reminds you that you have options and don’t have to stay with a guy that isn’t living up to what you want.
  3. He will know that if he wants you to be exclusive to him, he needs to explicitly lock you down in a clearly defined, exclusive relationship (and he’ll know without you ever having to say anything).
  4. If you’re looking to be in a relationship, you won’t be at the mercy of someone else to “come around.” Instead, you’ll be in a position to choose and it’s only a matter of time before one of your desirable options decides he wants you all to himself and explicitly asks you to be exclusive with him.
  5. It levels the playing field … frankly, if he’s desirable to you, he’s desirable to others and he has options … and he, like anyone, is going to choose whichever option he likes the best.

Which brings me to an important consideration you need to keep in mind…

How hot are you, how hot is he?

Frankly, this is going to be a long article and at times I just have to be blunt…

The more desirable options a guy has, the more seduction is necessary in order to stand out from the crowd.

I mean, let’s face it… the more options you have, the more picky you’re going to be, the less you’re going to put up with, etc.  And if you don’t have options, you’re going to be much more likely to settle for less than you want and put up with more crap.

So the more in-demand a guy is, the hotter you’re going to need to be in all the places it matters.

You need to be the right version of hotness

Now I need to make another blunt, non-PC statement here: There are two forms of “hotness”… there’s the stuff that women are told is hot and there’s the stuff that is actually hot to men…

I have to tell you, I researched a bit before writing this article… and 9 out of 10 of the articles that came up on this topic were horribly bad. I mean, laughably, embarrassingly bad. Most of the stuff they recommended would at best make a guy feel bad for you, and at worst make a guy burst into laughter at your weird behavior.

To confuse matters worse, there are lots of magazines and women-oriented TV shows and movies that are telling you what’s “hot,” but what they’re telling you is hot actually does nothing for a man sexually or seductively… it sells products and gets you to behave the way that marketers want … but it won’t make you a successful seducer.

In fact, if you’ve been looking to the media for information on how to be seductive, it’s safe to assume that you’ve been misled in many ways … so hopefully we can deprogram you from some of the crap that will destroy your chances at being seductive…

For starters…

Be the hottest version of yourself

Again, bluntness time: This means you have a great diet and work hard to be in great shape but the bottom line is that being really fit and healthy is sexy…

Having sexy hair and make-up is also essential to being a great seductress. Again, ignore women’s magazines, TV shows, and pop culture—those sources will just tell you what marketers want you to buy.

Instead, if you really want to know what men find hot… look at men’s magazines.

Really let this sink in because it’s so obvious that a lot of women miss it: If you want to know what men find hot, look at what men are looking at… not at what women are looking at.

They call that the elusive obvious…

And once you see, clear as day, what men find hot… copy those elements.

Now granted, if you decide to make your appearance what men find hot, it’s likely that some women will be  jealous of you … so I suppose now is a good time to tell you a truth about seduction: If you’re really, really effective at seducing men, other women will hate you for it. Not all women, but definitely the insecure ones. Haters gonna hate.

The most important part of looking hot… is feeling that you’re hot.

Here’s the deal… some people are just genetically luckier than others. It’s not fair, it sucks… but it is what it is.

So now that that’s out of the way, instead of whining about the unfairness of life, embrace this idea wholeheartedly: Seduction is not about becoming someone you’re not.  Seduction is about highlighting your most seductive qualities.

Don’t compete against other women… be the hottest version of yourself… strive for the hottest version of your body, the hottest version of your hair, the hottest version of your makeup. Be excited about improving yourself and learning ways to be better.

Looking hot is important, but it’s not enough. You need to have an appealing “vibe.”

Men are visual, and the appearance stuff does matter, but how you feel inside will have a tremendous impact on your attractiveness as well.

You’ll hear people talk about how everyone has a “vibe” to them… some people have a sexy vibe… some have a fun vibe… some have a creepy vibe… and on and on.

Well what determines your vibe?  Your mood.

If you want to have the sexiest vibe possible, then you need to let go of all the mental drama that clouds your mood. This is why I was making such a big point about connecting to your sense of being OK with your life.

The #1 reason why most people aren’t good at seduction…

Most people don’t have an attractive vibe because they’re constantly in their head, fighting some battle or striving to solve some problem. This kills their mood and flushes a good vibe down the toilet.

Worrying about your attractiveness falls into this category. Worrying about anything is going to kill your mood, whether it’s your attractiveness, what people think of you, or anything else.  It’s going to take you out of the moment and kill your vibe.

So instead of beating yourself up, just let it all go.

Granted, I think some magazines and well-meaning publications go too far in the other direction when they want to pump up your self-esteem. They will tell you to “fake it till you make it” and to do something ridiculous like believe you’re the hottest woman in the world.

The fact is, sexy confidence isn’t about trying to jackhammer your mind with the idea you’re the hottest woman in the world. Sexy confidence is more about the absence of self-destructive negative thinking (and the behavior that the negative thinking creates).

So instead of thinking of confidence as something you need to have or do, just think of it as giving up on worrying about your attractiveness.  Think of it as giving up on negative thinking. Think of it as giving up on negative emotions and negative moods.  Think of it as giving up on having enemies, grievances, and complaints.

Just be OK, focus on your self-improvement, and assume that men want you. Don’t put too much stock into any one man’s response to you. Do you see how all these ideas build on one another?

Stop worrying whether or not you’re enough, or have enough, and start enjoying your life as it’s happening.  As my friend Adam Gilad likes to say, “Female happiness is an aphrodisiac to men.”

You can choose to indulge in negativity or you can choose to be seductive… but you can’t choose both.

The bottom line here is that looking hot is great, but it’s your vibe that will take you from simply looking hot to being irresistible to men. And your mood determines your vibe, so live in a way where you engage with every moment in a positive way that feels good, and just stop feeding into negativity of any kind ever again.

Well, actually, I’ll give you a choice… if you want to repel men and women and make yourself unattractive, then, by all means, feed into negativity (complaining, fighting, arguing, criticizing, worrying, ridiculing, bullying, condescending, putting others down, etc.).

If you want to be incredibly attractive to men and women alike, then eliminate negativity in your life. This doesn’t mean you become some sort of grinning idiot trying to force yourself into happiness … you’ll find that recognizing all negativity as unattractive poison and letting it go is enough to massively improve your vibe.

If you are someone who regularly feeds into some form of negativity, you’ll be amazed at how much more attractive other people find you once you completely give up on negativity.

Men move towards what feels good.

Now we’re getting close to giving you directions on what you’ll be doing to seduce the man (or men) you want. Here’s a key understanding about men: Men move towards what feels good in the moment and away from what feels bad in the moment.

I’ve received countless emails from women asking me why a guy is pulling away or why a guy isn’t interested in dating them.  I’ve even had women go so far as to say that men don’t want to be in a relationship.

The truth is, there are tons of men who want to be in the typical monogamous, exclusive relationship with one woman they love and adore.  However, they don’t pursue it as some sort of goal.

Instead, men simply judge a relationship on one thing: Does it feel good when I’m with her?  Does it feel good having her in my life? Read This- 10 Biggest Mistakes Most Women Make In Relationship

If it does, he’ll keep coming back for more, and the relationship will likely deepen.

However, what often happens is that the relationship starts out with the woman being carefree and simply enjoying the moment … but after a little while, her head overflows with some fantasy future of “what could be,” quickly followed by a fear that it might not come true … shortly followed by her measuring the guy up to see whether or not her fears of losing the relationship will come about.

In other words, she goes from being OK and having fun to worrying and indulging in negative thinking about the relationship (which is really just some image in her head). She goes from being in the relationship to being caught up in her head… which kills her vibe, which kills the attraction for the guy…

Now, instead of it feeling good for the guy, he feels an aura of stress and negativity emanating from the woman.  It stops feeling good—he may not consciously know why, but he certainly feels that the attraction is gone.

The woman then senses that the man is losing attraction, which causes her more anxiety, which further destroys her vibe and… well… that’s usually where the guy exits.

It’s silly, because there would be no problem in the first place if the woman simply realized that her vibe determines her attractiveness to the guy, and her mood determines her vibe, and that by simply not indulging in negative thinking, she could avoid creating the problem altogether.

This is a point where some readers might get upset because they think that I’m “blaming” the woman for making a man leave. Quite the opposite is true, actually. I’m showing you that you have control and you don’t have to be at the mercy of a guy’s feelings about you, since now you know something that 99% of women don’t know: Your mood determines your vibe and your vibe determines your attractiveness.  When you can see that, you are in control.

As the seductress, you are in control…

Specifically, you are in control of your mood.  You are in control of your emotions. You take responsibility for how you engage with life and you see yourself as the agent of action, not the victim of circumstance.

This is a matter of perspective.  Most people in our society, sadly, see themselves as victims.  If you want to be successful at seducing a man, you cannot view yourself as a victim.

This means that you are not seeking things from him… or needing things from him… or craving things from him.

Instead, you are the architect of your world and you move through it enticing people to give you what you want.  You don’t beg.  You give people an opportunity to step up and be a part of your world … and if they step up and you enjoy them, you give them more of your attention … if they don’t, then they lose your attention entirely, without drama or negativity of any kind.

This is only possible if you have completely given up on feeding into negativity of any kind.  If you have a habit of emotionally reacting to things that other people are doing and saying, you’ll always be at the mercy of others.

Most people are blinded by their own emotions and reactions. They focus on how much they want the other person instead of on creating desire in the other person.

The seductress is outward focused because she’s internally happy and at peace. She creates desire in others, both through her vibe and through seductive action.

The Art of Seduction: Make Him Feel Like “The Man.”

We talked about the mindset, now we’re going to talk about what kind of behavior seduces a man.  I cannot stress this enough: The mindset is required for all this to work, so I highly encourage you to read and reread those sections until it becomes your normal, habitual way of being.

As I said before, men are going to measure their experience with you based entirely on how it feels when they’re with you.

If it feels good, he’ll come back for more.  If it feels exciting, sexy and fun… he’ll become addicted to you.  You will be seducing him.

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If you want to be great at seducing men, then it’s important that you actually truly like, love and enjoy men in general.

I realize that it’s not politically correct to say in this day and age, but quite frankly, men are attracted to feminine women.

Generally speaking, women aren’t attracted to men that act like women, so why would we expect men to be attracted to women who act like men?

I’m strictly speaking in terms of what men are attracted to—this is not a political statement or an assertion on how women should act.  I’m simply pointing out what men are attracted to.

So if you want to be great at seducing men, embrace your femininity.  Don’t be afraid to be girly.

Bring your feminine essence to your interactions.

Don’t compete with him, don’t challenge him, don’t emasculate him.

How Can I Seduce Him And Turn Him On? (Part1)

Instead, be soft and receive him.  When a woman feels like a woman, her presence makes the man feel like the man.  In this way, his experience of life feels like more than it would feel like if he were on his own.  Her presence brings an added dimension to his life.

This only happens if you’re bringing feminine energy to the relationship, though.  If you’re not, he won’t be able to describe it, but he’ll feel like something essential is missing from the relationship with you (and it’s highly likely he will continue to seek out this dimension until he finds a woman who does bring feminine energy to the relationship).

There seems to be a huge media push over the last 25 years to cast women as tough, masculine and combative.  Nobody wants to call it out because if you do, you’ll be accused of being anti-women, of being a chauvinist, or of trying to hold women back from obtaining equal rights.

Frankly, that’s just crap. I know plenty of women who are extremely feminine, but also have career success, a great education, and the respect of their peers.

Reject the media’s push for women to be difficult, angry, anti-male and confrontational … nobody, man or woman, wants to “deal with” someone’s confrontational attitude.  It doesn’t come across as strength or confidence … it just comes across as repulsive bitterness.

Being feminine doesn’t mean you’re weak or dumb or selling out women.  There is tremendous strength in fully embracing your femininity—it is highly attractive and therefore, highly influential.  There’s tremendous intelligence in embracing your femininity, too—what could be more intelligent than embracing an energy that gets you the results you want?  And you’re not selling out women—you’re just being effective.

My only guess as to why there’s such a big push for women to act masculine is… well… because unhappy women make excellent customers.  Advertisers don’t want you to be happy, they want you to be a great customer (and the media is entirely funded by advertisers).  Happy, fulfilled people don’t make great customers.

If you want to be a great seductress, then you need to know what to ignore and what to embrace. Embrace what gets you results.  Ignore what doesn’t (and especially ignore anything designed to upset, worry or anger you).

It’s a shame that I even need to tiptoe around the idea that a woman being feminine is good—somehow it has become a taboo subject in the US.

Receive him… and he’ll find you irresistible.

When you’re with him, be positive and happy. Complaining and fighting is not an energy men want to be around. The same goes for cattiness, arrogance and bashing other women—let go of all those behaviors … they are poison to a seductress.

Receive him.  Be curious: Be intensely interested in his ideas, his goals, his dreams, his viewpoints and his “mission.”  Enjoy his jokes and his way of being.

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Contrary to what most people believe, men are actually starved for appreciation, acceptance, and admiration.  The truth is, men are generally treated as society’s punching bag—men are expected to absorb negativity from all angles without complaint… whether it’s from his nagging girlfriend, his unappreciative boss, his undependable friends, media portrayals of men, etc.

It’s terrifying and sad, but women today are taught that men are attracted to women who are difficult and challenging… but this simply doesn’t work…

The seductress knows that the most irresistible energy to a man is a woman who entirely appreciates, accepts and enjoys him without needing anything from him. That is incredibly seductive to a man… that is the woman a man wants to have in his life, all to himself.

Wait… Why am I doing all this stuff and he’s doing nothing?

Whenever I write a post about what’s effective in a relationship, it’s only a matter of time before someone will comment, “Why does the woman have to do all this stuff just to get a man?  A real man should step up, blah blah blah…”

Here’s the deal: I’m telling you how to be effective at seducing a man.

Nobody is forcing you to seduce a man.  Nobody is forcing you to be in a relationship.  Nobody is forcing you to do anything with a guy…

But… if you’re interested in being in a relationship, doesn’t it make sense to know what works?

You are in control here… so choose the guy you want.  

You are in control … so if he’s not measuring up, choose to let him disappear from your attention entirely.

You are in control … so if you’re not getting what you wantchoose to move on and get what you do want.

So I don’t want to hear any complaining that I’m “telling women that the burden is on them.”  I’m giving you power, clarity, and choice by telling you what works.  Celebrate this, don’t complain.

Now since you’re in control of the seduction, one of the requirements is…

He’s actively engaged when you’re with him.

As a seductress, you are nobody’s “dancing monkey.” You are not jumping through hoops to impress a guy.

When you’re with him (or in communication with him), you’re creating desire.  But when you’re not available, don’t worry about him fluttering away… so long as you’re creating interest, you can be confident that his desire for you will grow more and more even when you’re not around.  So don’t be afraid of ignoring him if you’re not available (at the same time, there’s no reason to pretend to be unavailable because some silly book told you to wait three days before calling or texting him or something ridiculous like that)…

Instead, you are giving people the opportunity to participate in a seduction.  This means that if they want to keep getting your attention, they need to be actively engaged in the process.

This means you need to create the space necessary for him to reach for more of you.

For example, don’t outright tell a guy that you think he’s hot stuff… instead, create desire within him and allow him the space to reach for more of you. (I’m going to give you specific actions to create desire soon.)

When a woman is desperate to get a guy, she ends up doing all sorts of stuff to win him over.  She obsesses over him, she chases him and she worries that she’ll “screw up her chances with him.”

The seductress doesn’t really care what happens.  She has fun in the moments she spends with the guy… and if it stops being fun, she leaves.

When a man is in the presence of a seductress, he knows his participation is required.  She’s not desperate to have him—she’s there because she’s enjoying herself in the time she’s spending with him, but that doesn’t mean he “has her” and can just slack off.

You are not making him chase you.

Now at the same time, this doesn’t mean that you’re some kind of cold, detached puppetmaster who’s making him chase you.

Contrary to popular opinion, men do not “love the chase” (as I wrote about before).  Just because you won’t stick around when a guy isn’t putting in the effort doesn’t mean that you’re making him chase you or making him constantly do stuff to entertain you.

The idea of making him chase you is largely based on the idea of dangling some bait and then withholding the bait so he chases you to get the bait.

There are a few flaws in the “chasing” model…

First off, presenting something to a guy and then withholding it puts the attention on what you’re withholding… instead of on you.  A seductress stirs up desire, interest and pleasure… she is not withholding, but she doesn’t need anything from him either or care what happens with him.

Second, it’s a very short-sighted strategy.  It might appear effective from a limited perspective, but I’m sure that dumping water out of the sinking Titanic might have looked effective too from a very limited perspective.

What are you going to do?  Withhold things from him forever?  And why would a man with a lot of choices waste his time chasing the possibility of good feelings with you, when he can have the reality of good feelings with another woman?

Third, withholding stuff from a guy is a lot of work and not much fun… aside from it being a shortsighted strategy and taking the focus off of you, why take that route when you can have fun and enjoy your time with the guy?

You simply enjoy your time with him, you don’t need anything from him in order to feel OK and you enjoy creating desire, interest, and pleasure within him.

When you feel awesome to be around, he won’t be able to get enough of you.  And since you won’t be screwing up a perfectly good seduction by acting needy, you’ll probably be unlike any woman he’s ever met.  No withholding necessary.

OK, so now let’s talk about how to turn a guy on…

How To Turn A Guy On With Specific Actions…

So look… this article is probably the longest article I’ve written so far.  I have extensive notes on the action portion of how to seduce a man, but I’m going to split this article into two parts for the sake of getting it out right away and so this article isn’t any longer than it already is.

If you have questions or want clarification about something I said here so far, please leave me a comment.  I look forward to your feedback.

UPDATE:  Part 2 will soon be up, subscribe so you can receive notification when Part 2 is out

I hope this article helped you better understand how to seduce a man (and make sure to read Part 2!). But there is more you need to know. There is one defining moment in every relationship that determines if it will last, or if you will be left heartbroken…

Hope it helps,

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I know you really want to make him happy right? You really want him to go crazy just for you right? Every man not only wants a strong and confident woman but a sensual one too. The phrase “give a man what he wants” is one special parting gift I got from my parents when I was getting married. Every man wants his lady to know his likes, stuff that makes him smile, know how to satisfy his deepest needs and also get to his heart.

There are things you know about your man that no one else knows about which makes you a perfect fit to fulfill his desires. There’s a whole lot you can dispense in bed while getting intimate that you can use to give your man that toe-curling, body shaking and mind-blowing coming he desires.

You may have been tempted once in a while to look up topics like “what to do in bed with your guy”, “creative things to do in bed” or even ” how to make a man cry in bed”. It is understandable as women are emotional beings and we tend to put in our all when in romantic relationships. All these and more will be treated as we proceed together.

Before we proceed into” how to make a man cry in bed”, I’d like to state here that I do not have all the answers but will be sharing tried and tested truth obtained by research and personal experiences.

First rule: Men send out hints or even demand to be satisfied. As a lady try not to ignore or shut your man up. Acknowledge his desire to be with you and possibly suggest a better time if you are not up to it at that particular moment.

Rejecting your spouse will hurt deeply and remember men don’t know how to handle rejection properly, that’s why most men will rather die in silence than even approach a lady for a relationship for fear of being turned down. This is an example of what not to do in bed with a guy.

Intimacy is a two-way thing, for you and your man also. So if you love your man, let him know. Wanton fulfillment is one of the things most men crave.

1.  It Begins In The Mind

The secret to giving your man the best of you is allowing your mind to get into the process. Have the intention and put your mind into it. Purpose in your mind to give your man a sizzling hot experience and it will happen.

Avoid wandering thoughts and forget chores yet undone or how ugly you think your body looks and see only one picture “I want to give my man the best of me”. Once your mind agrees, your body will follow suit. Funny enough, your man doesn’t see you that way, what he sees is a feminine body he wants to devour and nothing else, stop being preoccupied with the stretch marks or bulging stomach. Try to also stay in the moment while at it.

A lot of women have wandering thoughts when it comes to getting intimate with their spouse. Whenever you feel your mind wandering, focus on the pleasure you are giving and receiving and notice how you move, roll and even grind on him.

Mutual pleasure doesn’t start from the body parts but the heart. Make sure you respect him and meet his other needs as a man and mind-blowing intimacy will only be the icing on the cake. You must meet in your minds before your bodies. When a man’s emotional needs are met, they will get turned on just thinking of you and this will take him to the peak easily.


2.  Set The Atmosphere

how to make a man want you bad

This involves a whole lot of things. Begin by planting yourself in his heart. Before the act, you can prepare his mind also and make him think of you. What goes on in the bedroom actually begins outside the bedroom. Prepare your man’s mind too before the time. You can begin by sending some naughty or flirty messages like “hello darling, I’ve got something special prepared for you tonight”.

Keep him hanging and wondering! You don’t have to do this always as most men love surprises but once in a while, you can try this. It has a way of making him feel loved and not being able to get you out of his mind all day. This is one of the ways on how to make a man want you bad.

Another vital thing is a change of scenery. The bedroom is the boardroom of every marriage and as such, it should be dressed for business.

Having a sensual atmosphere can help you get your man in the mood for intimacy. Make sure the room is tidy, bed well laid and the lightning is perfect. Engage the use of soft music, introduce the use of lovely fragrances, massage oils or perfumes too.

3.  Be Sensual

What is sensual to a man? It involves a whole lot of things.

A woman who needs her man and shows it is sensual. A woman who is comfortable in her skin is also sensual. It is not enough to have a good body or nice curves if you’ve got it, flaunt it when you are with your man. Go for erotic underwear, work on your appearance, decongest all forests in your intimate parts by trimming or removing them completely.

Pay great attention to your look and appear sensually dressed in your lingerie sometimes too. It’s not enough to have great curves, present it in a ready to eat form, make your man drool over you.

Wear things that make you attractive and sensuous especially when it’s bedtime. Make your body irresistible, be a seductress, it’s not illegal to seduce or make your man want you.


4.  Give Him Deep Kisses

Want to know how to make a man cry in bed? Give him deep kisses.

When was the last time you gave your man a passionate kiss? I mean mind-blowing kisses that could make your man go hard immediately. The kind that brings satisfaction even when you don’t end up going down on each other.

This is one area most people overlook but don’t know the power it comes with and how it can set the stage for a revamp in the bedroom.

How do you achieve this?

Start by reaching for your man’s lips and closing your eyes. This puts you in a world of its own. Pout your lips and rotate between sucking his upper and lower lips. It should come in a kind of exchange; while you are at his upper lips, he should be at your lower lips and vice versa.

Let out soft moans while you stick out your tongue and roll it into his while sucking it. The feeling is heavenly. When you are absorbed in this, you could hit paradise from the spot you are.

5.  Moaning

This is a great way of letting your man know how good you feel being in the act with him and this helps keep him in the mood also. It’s more like you responding to his touches and giving him clues about how you feel.


6.  Initiate Intimacy Sometimes Too

A man’s button never goes off, it’s always on and could be triggered by what they see. Your interest in getting him ready will propel him to give his all as well.

Be confident and initiate getting intimate, you don’t have to say it sometimes but can be manipulative about it. You could lay naked in bed or expose your body part that arouses him when he sees you.

You could also be confident and just reach out for his body. You could begin by planting light kisses on his neck and reaching out for his “joystick”. By doing this you are already sending signals of wanting to get down with him.


7.  Blow His Mind Sensually

There are a couple of creative things to do in bed with your man. We have been building the tension since we began and now we are getting to the heart of it. Make use of your hands, tongue, and mouth.

You can run his inner thighs with your hands or thumb while you move your fingers around the shaft. You can also slowly build his arousal by going back and forth with your hands and alternating with your mouth as well.

Next, you could reach for his feet by giving him a foot massage.

Suck on his thumb also if you can as this has a way of evoking some hidden feelings in some men. Suck on his bottles, start by going gently on them, lick with your tongue before you begin sucking; let your hands also play with the other while your lips are locked on one. You could also bite gently.


8.  The Kiss Trail

A very strong donut smile tip that allows you to move smoothly from kissing your husband to taking him in your mouth is to work slowly down from his lips to his intimate part by kissing your way down. So, you can move from his lips to his neck to his chest to his stomach until you reach his groin area. Of course, this works way better if he is naked.

You could plant soft kisses and trace lines on his body starting at his lips to the neck until you get to his stomach, you could also turn him over and do same on his back before ending it in his inner thighs, by this time he will be all ready with pre-cum on it’s way out. This is one of the ways on how to make a man cry in bed.

You can now reach out for his “joystick”. Don’t concentrate on it and leave out the balls, you can take them into your mouth one at a time.


9.  Blowing Him

Many women are so anxious at the thought of giving head to their man, that they just get straight to it with little or no build-up and with no teasing. It’s like they are focused only on making him cum.

Gently teasing your man and building up the passionate tension is to make your man beg for more. If you want to take your donut smile from good to great. This is one of the best ways on how to make a man cry in bed.


10.  Hand Massage

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This one is probably the easiest to get right. While you are kissing him or just talking to him or while you’re just physically close to him, put your hand on his crotch. So your hand should be resting on his briefs or his trousers.

To make it smooth, start by first placing your hand on his leg and moving it up from there. Then just softly start massaging his joystick and testicles, then take out his boxers and give him a joystick massage. It is another way on how to make a man cry in bed.

It’s as simple as softly running your hands over this area, but you can also get a little more aggressive by softly grabbing and squeezing his joystick and balls and then releasing the pressure. You could use a lubricant while doing this.

After massaging him for a few minutes, go up and kiss him in the lips, Then just keep doing what you were doing, running your hands over his manhood. If you like, you can also softly trace your fingers up and down his joystick and around his balls.


11.  Talking To Him On Your knees

New things to try in bed with your boyfriend

Another great donut smile tip to build up to giving your man head is talking to your man while on your knees. You can start with something simple like, “So what would you like me to do now, honey?” while holding his joystick in your hands. You can be sure that he’s going to ask you to give him a donut smile.

Don’t forget to also talk dirty if you can, but make sure it’s something your man likes as not men love it.

Giving out donut smile isn’t all there is on “how to make a man cry in bed”. You won’t go wrong if you watch how he reacts to your touches or even ask him his preferences in bed. Above all, learn to be in control and be confident in your superpowers to make him cry for you and make him.addicted to you intimately.

You may be asking, in all of these, what’s my reward? Your reward is that a satisfied man will do anything and go to any length for his lady. If you give yourself to your man in bed as an obligation, you will miss the mark but if you do it because you love, cherish and desire to see him satisfied and happy, then get ready for the rewards.

13 Ways to Give Your Partner Multiple Orgasms

It’s rare. But we promise you it can be done.

Giving your partner just one orgasm is cause for celebration. But giving your partner multiple orgasms? Well, that’s enough reason to throw a freaking parade.

That said, one small note: the ability to come more than once comes (pun intended) far more easier for people with a vulva than it does for people with a penis. A penis-owner has to wait for their refractory period to pass before they’re ready for round two, but vulva-owners don’t seem to need the same reloading phase, says Men’s Health sex advisor Debby Herbenick, Ph.D. So the following information applies almost exclusively to readers whose partners have a vulva. (For more information about how to give multiple orgasms to someone with a penis, check out this story.)

But just because your partner can come twice—or more!—in a row, it doesn’t mean they will. Studies suggest that somewhere between 14 and 40 percent of women have had multiple orgasms in one session. So how do you help your partner become one of the lucky ones? Here are 13 expert-approved steps you can take to try and give them multiple orgasms.

1) Make sure your partner wants to have multiple orgasms to begin with.

Some people would rather cuddle after climaxing than be pressured into an encore. Plus, vulva-owners differ dramatically in regard to how they can achieve one orgasm, let alone multiple orgasms, so it’s possible they may be too sensitive to want to go again for Round Two. Always check in with your partner before trying to make them come again, and never make them feel bad if they can’t pull off a repeat performance. (It’s like, come on guys, how often are you coming three, four, or five times in a night?)

2) Let go of any goals you’ve set for the night.

On a similar note, don’t put any expectations on your partner. You DON’T want to say something like, “I want you to come five times tonight.” Even if they want to orgasm five times, it adds a lot of pressure. “The brain is by far the most important sexual organ, so if your partner feels as though there is an expectation to have multiple orgasms, then it’s probably won’t happen,” explains Cory B., kink coach and sex educator. “Instead, focus simply on facilitating an environment of pleasure for the sake of pleasure.”

3) Create lots of sexual tension.

Building up desire is a precursor to any sexual activity. But creating copious amounts of sexual tension can be just what she needs to achieve a bonus orgasm. “You want her to retain her feelings of overall arousal when her body starts to relax after having the first orgasm,” says Amie Harwick, author of The New Sex Bible for Women. So take a few minutes’ break in between. Give your partner a massage or just cuddle.

4) Use sex toys.

This is by the far the most direct way to get your partner to have multiple orgasms. Sex toys do things that you (and your penis) can’t, no matter how hard you try. They vibrate, curve, suction, pulse, and so much more. I mean, there’s a goddamn sex toy out there for pretty much any and everything, and they can take over when your hands and tongue get tired. For starters, consider incorporating a clitoral vibrator—like options below—into your routine. You or your partner can hold it against their clitoris during foreplay, penetration, and even during your post-intercourse cuddle sesh for one last round

4) Keep your partner idling.

After your partner has an orgasm, give their clitoris a short break, as it becomes super sensitive for many women immediately after sex, says Ian Kerner, Ph.D., author of She Comes First: The Thinking Man’s Guide to Pleasuring a Woman. If you’re too focused on that area, she may not be ready to go again. Wait a couple of minutes at minimum before heading back to their clitoris.

5) Don’t ignore their breasts and butt.

During the time you’re idling, you can and should still attempt to keep your partner aroused. “Since after a clitoral orgasm, going right back into clitoral stimulation can be a lot to handle since the clit is super sensitive, try some internal or anal stimulation to give the clit a much needed break,” says Cory B. You can also play with your partner’s breasts and whisper in their ear about how beautiful they are. Your goal is to keep them in a semi-aroused state so you don’t have to start from scratch to bring them back to the top of the mountain.

6) Rev things back up.

After a vulva-owner has an orgasm, the blood that rushes to their genitals during sex lingers, making it easier for them to climax again, Kerner says. He advises men to prime their partner for round two with some dirty talk. Talking dirty will signal to your partner that the momentum is still strong.

7) Return your attention to their genitals.

“Start with a light touch,” says Johnnywriter. “Try lightly circling your finger or tongue over her clitoris slowly, and then work up to more extreme stimulation with an increasingly faster pace, more pressure, and intensity until she’s ready to go again.” Starting with a slow, sensual touch gives your partner more time prepare for the next one.

8) Breathe with your partner.

“We often forget to be conscious of our breath during sex,” says Cory B. “Breathing allows us to connect in a deeper way with our body and to our partner’s body. Having your partner breathe slowly and deeply while stimulating them will increase the likelihood of an orgasm, especially if it’s not the first one of the night.”

9) Try a new route.

There’s nothing wrong with sticking with what works, but you can also try bringing them to orgasm by attending to a different erogenous zone. This can work particularly well if her clitoris is still sensitive from round one. Experiment sensually with other areas like the neck, ears, and toes and see how your partner reacts.

10) Alternate between sex positions.

Novelty encourages the release of the feel-good chemical dopamine, which may help your partner orgasm faster, says Johnnywriter. Aim for their G-spot with positions like woman on top or doggy-style. The change in position will keep your partner on her toes.

11) Don’t be afraid to kick it up a notch.

Feeling more adventurous? Some women can climax from nipple stimulation, research finds. Lightly trace circles on your partner’s nipples with your fingers or tongue, building pressure as you go, or try sucking on them. If you’re partner is really into nipple play, consider trying a pair of nipple clamps

Want to crank it up another notch? Stimulate the area between your partner’s vagina and anus with your tongue, suggests Ava Cadell, Ph.D., author of Idiot’s Guides: The Kama Sutra. Some people find it mind-blowing—but you want to check with them first.

12) Take a full stop before round two (or three).

While sometimes it can be easier to have her reach multiple orgasms if they follow one after the other, other times, you need to come to a full stop. This isn’t just giving their clitoris a break, it’s giving their whole body a break. “The body needs time to recharge after orgasm, so taking a rest period after each orgasm can increase the chances of it happening again,” says Cory B. “During these breaks, drink water, eat a light snack, cuddle, and just chill out. Remember, it’s a marathon, not a sprint.”