I was completely depressed because of what I was going through that moment so I wanted to give up after going through emotional slavery and imprisonment, I knew I had a purpose on earth but my emotions wouldn’t let me recognize that purpose, I was strong on the outside but emotionally imprisoned on the inside. I have taken time to expose this hidden story in this book and how I was able to control my emotions and live a beautiful life.
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Many of the thoughts in this Book were originally presented in several seminars series I taught on the subject of emotions and depression and letting go of the past.
Through my website (hisparadisetherapy.com) I made it clear to my clients each time am counseling them that the purpose of this book was not to teach them how to get rid of anger because it’s impossible but you can learn how to control your anger and set yourself free from emotional imprisonment.
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As I told them, nobody will ever reach the place of not having emotions of anger. Nobody will ever reach a point in life of not experiencing a wide variety of feelings.
No matter how hard you and I may try, we will always have to deal with the emotion of anger, jealousy, fear, depression, which causes many people a lot of guilt and condemnation. The reason is because they have the false idea that as a Christian or Muslim we are never to get angry.
When we get angry, the only thing we shouldn’t do is allowing our emotions to get rid of us, instead we should learn to manage and control our emotions in the proper way.
It seems that the majority of people are either emotional or emotionless. What is really needed is balance – the ability to show emotions when they are either positive and helpful, and to control anger when they are negative and destructive.
I know what I went through so I wouldn’t want others to go through the same thing that’s why I decided to create a solution to this imprisonment called ‘’anger’’. When I was 10year old, I remember vividly how I ran into my room after having a fight with my younger sister. I was crying because my mother was against me raising my hand on my sister. I got emotional and was angry on why she didn’t see my sister’s disrespectful act towards me.
When I ran to my room, my mother sent for me but I completely ignored her, it wasn’t my intention to disrespect my mother by ignoring her but it was my emotions controlling and playing tricks on me, emotion of anger got a negative side of me. I can still remember when my mother bashed into my room and gave me a dirty slap on the face, and asked me why I couldn’t control my emotions. Anger was my greatest weakness while growing up and I couldn’t control it because I always thought that in order to not get angry, I needed to stop getting angry completely but I was wrong. No one can stop feeling emotional; we can only learn how to control it.
When we are angry and frustrated by something in our life, we often take out our anger and frustration on someone else – usually our spouse, family members, friends, or someone else with whom we share a close relationship. After I received that slap from my mother I was angry and had to transfer the anger on my second sister when she came to console me, I shouted at her and demanded she leaves my presence. Anger is not a good thing but its worst when you can’t control it but the problem is not our anger and frustration as much as it is our lack of control.
My message in this book is simple; there is nothing wrong with emotions, you have every right to be emotional, as long as they are kept under control. This book will help you break the chain of anger slavery.
Before my admission into the University few years ago, I was working for SOEDECO company Limited in uyo, akwa ibom state. One day I decided to take a break and rest, while resting I decided to use my phone and check something online since it was a new phone my mother bought for me, that was in my final year in secondary school.
That Nokia X2 was my first new phone so I couldn’t stop pressing it. When my boss walked in, he snatched the phone with anger and hit it on the wall, I saw my phone flying straight at the wall and everyone looked as my new phone splashed into pieces and I couldn’t stop looking at my phone turned into pieces. My Boss was angry before he walked into the office, probably someone made him angry so he came back with anger and transferred it on me, I was the victim of his anger and it ruins my day.
I got home with anger in my heart and if I didn’t control that anger I would have transferred it to my sisters and those around me. You must act as a circuit breaker.
Anger is an emotional state that varies in intensity from mild irritation to intense fury and rage. Like other emotions, it is accompanied by physiological and biological changes; when you get angry, your heart rate and blood pressure go up, as do the levels of your energy hormones, adrenaline, and noradrenaline.
Anger can be caused by both external and internal events. You could be angry at a specific person (such as a coworker or your Boss) or event (a traffic jam, a canceled flight), or your anger could be caused by worrying or brooding about your personal problems. Memories of traumatic or enraging events can also trigger angry feelings.