Johnnywriter
Ask him these questions to find out if he’s in it for the long haul
When you’re in a long-term relationship with the goal of someday getting married, it’s natural to want to know if your boyfriend feels the same way. While you might not exactly be able to read his mind, there are some good questions to ask your boyfriend to get at least a little glimpse into where his head is at.
It’s really hard to predict who will be the one to pop the question, but it’s not an impossible task. More often than not, men who are thinking of marriage will occasionally drop hints about it to the women they want to see walk down the aisle towards them.
The following questions are great for women who want to find out where their relationship really stands. If he’s hesitant, changes the subject, or stonewalls you, then it’s safe to say he’s not looking for marriage with you.
On the other hand, if he says “yes” to these ten questions, he’ll be happy to wife you up eventually.
1. Do you see yourself with me in the long-term?
If he asks you how long term you’re talking about, it’s safe to say that he sees your relationship as a placeholder. If he says “yes,” you’re safe to say he’ll lock it down. If he hesitates, it’s just a bad sign overall.
2. How do you view marriage?
If he hates the idea of marriage, he’ll never pop the question. End of story.
3. Are most of your friends married?
Men are notorious for following the cues of their friends. If his buds are hitched and he’s single, he’s probably looking to change that sooner rather than later
4. Are you looking for marriage?
Sometimes you have to be blunt. If he tells you he’s not looking for a wife, believe him. If he’s vehemently anti-marriage, he’s just not going to be a husband to you, ever.
5. What age do you want to get married?
Only ask this question if he’s already said yes to #4. Otherwise, he will likely freak out and ask you why you want to label things.
6. Do you want to have kids?
Most men who want to have kids also are interested in marriage. If he wants to have a baby with you, he will probably propose to you soon enough.
7. Do you see me as wife material?
If he can’t say yes to this, you need to break up with him immediately. Men know pretty early on when a woman is “wife material,” so if he seems unsure about you, he’s wasting your time and using you as a placeholder.
8. Would you want to go on a vacation this summer?
A man who is looking to pop the question will often try to make vacation plans and other distant future plans. This is a sign he’s looking to lock you down, so if he’s game for a trip to Rome or Paris, it’s safe to say he’s invested.
9. Are you looking to grow with me?”
Marriage is about growth, and a guy who’s looking to marry will know this. If he’s not looking for someone to grow with, it’s not a good sign.
10. Do you want to move in together?
A guy who’s marriage-minded will not have an issue moving in together. A guy who’s scared of commitment will. It’s just that simple.
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