7 Tips to Make the Cowgirl Sex Position Your Favorite

7 Tips to Make the Cowgirl Sex Position Your Favorite

When it comes to between-the-sheets action, the cowgirl position is a real crowd splitter. Some women love the power and control associated with being on top, while others tend to feel slightly intimidated (or even exhausted) by the mere thought of it.

We asked Johnnywriter, sex and relationship expert for sexual wellness brand Hisparadise therapy to talk us through the cowgirl sex position and share tips on how to get creative:

7 Tips to Make the Cowgirl Sex Position Your Favorite- Your step-by-step guide

The cowgirl position is an easy-to-perform, woman-on-top position, says Johnnywriter. While this article refers to sex between a woman or a person with a vagina, and a man or a person with a penis, the move isn’t exclusive gender-exclusive.

7 Tips to Make the Cowgirl Sex Position Your Favorite

‘It isn’t just for straight couples – same sex couples can enjoy it just as much.’

‘It isn’t just for straight couples – same sex couples can enjoy it just as much,’ he explains. ‘In the case of two women, all that is needed is a strap-on’. Here, Johnnywriter explains how to assume the position:

  • With the penetrating partner lying on their back, straddle their hips and position yourself over their penis or strap-on.
  • Hold their penis or strap-on in one hand and slide down onto it. Smearing it with some lube beforehand will add to your pleasure.
  • The key element of this position is not to sit upright on top of them, but to lean forward over them, which means you can use your hands to support yourself, either placing them on their hips, or either side of him.
  • When you’re in the position, you can swivel your hips like a dancer, bounce or grind on them and control the depth and rhythm of your thrusts.

What are the benefits of the cowgirl position?

In cowgirl position, the woman has complete control and can dictate the rhythm, pace and depth of penetration. ‘You can go slow or fast – whatever rocks your boat,’ says Johnnywriter

Women are also more likely to achieve an orgasm in this position, says Johnnywriter ‘It’s a far better position than missionary for stimulating the clit, both with the penis and with the hands,’ he says. ‘On top of that, there is always eye contact, so you could say it’s a position that strengthens a sense of intimacy, as well as being very erotic.’

7 Tips to Make the Cowgirl Sex Position Your Favorite

What if penetration feels too deep?

There are ways to vary the cowgirl sex position to make it more comfortable. Remember, you’re in control.

‘The key for a comfortable cowgirl is getting the angle right,’ says Johnnywriter. ‘Don’t sit straight up at a 90-degree angle – instead, lean forward slightly for a 45-degree angle. This will give you the easiest and most comfortable penetration. It is vertical penetration that is often the most painful.’

Don’t go easy on the lube, either. ‘A good water-based lubricant can be bought for as little as £5 a bottle, and is a vital aid to all sex positions, whatever your age,’ says Johnnywriter. ‘The wetter you are, the better sex feels for both of you. Using lube enhances sex and is no reflection on your natural lubrication.’

And what if it isn’t deep enough?

The easiest way to find the depth you want is by adjusting the angle of your hips. ‘When you want some really deep penetration, move into a more upright position,’ says Johnnywriter. You could also try spreading your knees further apart.

Additionally, have your partner put their hands on your hips for extra leverage and to maximise the impact of the grind, suggests Johnnywriter. ‘Switch up the speed and the depth of the penetration so that there is no discernible pattern,’ he says. ‘Try gyrating back and forth, or in circles, rather than just up and down.’

7 Tips to Make the Cowgirl Sex Position Your Favorite

8 cowgirl position sex tips

Whether you’re in need of some extra support or looking for a little extra stimulation, these expert-approved sex tips have you covered.

1. Take a break

If the position is taking a toll on your thigh muscles, take a break. ‘When your muscles feel tired, break for a moment and lean back, placing your arms behind you, perhaps on your partner’s knees, and take a few deep breaths before getting back into the action,’ says Johnnywriter.

2. Have them sit upright

Alternatively, you could have your partner move into a seated position. ‘There is no rule that says the penetrating partner, has to lie on their back the whole time,’ says Johnnywriter. ‘They can sit up so that you meet face-to-face and hold on to your back to provide further support.’

7 Tips to Make the Cowgirl Sex Position Your Favorite

3. Tuck your legs

For additional comfort and support, adjust the position of your legs. ‘Tucking your legs under your partner’s can also offer some extra support,’ adds Johnnywriter

4. Switch up the rhythm

Varying the speed and depth of penetration is one way to add more stimulation, says McKenzie.

5. Introduce a sex toy

Cowgirl position is the perfect position to incorporate a sex toy, says Johnnywriter. ‘Provide added clitoral stimulation with a simple toy such as a bullet vibrator,’ he suggests. ‘Remember: two-thirds of women struggle to climax through intercourse alone, so this extra stimulation is vital if the receiver is going to orgasm.

7 Tips to Make the Cowgirl Sex Position Your Favorite

6….Or some gentle restraints

Try taking control away from your partner by holding his hands above his head, or restraining him with cuffs or a tie, and telling him not to move, suggests Johnnywriter
‘Adding a blindfold is fun as well,’ he says.

7. Invert the move

‘Alternatively, go for a ‘reverse’ cowgirl, where you assume the position but face their feet instead,’ says Johnnywriter

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