12 Guaranteed Signs He Is Never Going to Marry You

12 Guaranteed Signs He Is Never Going to Marry You. As a woman when you get into any relationship your intention is to be with him not because he is perfect but because you love him deeply and as time goes on you start looking for Signs if he is Ever Going to Marry You

When you’re dating someone, eventually you’ll have to ask: is this relationship just for now, for fun, or is it forever?

What You need to know about Marriage And Relationships in the Western Society

Let’s find out what marriage is all about in this western society. In Western society, there is a significant amount of attention and value placed on marriage, especially in a country like Nigeria. Roughly 90% of individuals in Western culture are wed before they reach the age of 50. Marriage is a milestone in which various individuals are eager to reach at some point in their lives. When someone suspects or learns that they’re in a relationship with a man who doesn’t want to marry, this can be upsetting for a plethora of reasons.

12 Guaranteed Signs He Is Never Going to Marry You

Before going into the warning signs that a man doesn’t want to marry you, know this: your value as a human being is not dependent upon whether or not someone wants to marry you. There are all kinds of reasons why a man may not want to become your husband; these reasons could pertain to you or they could be issues which are solely on his end. Nevertheless, it’s important to remember that you are worthy and valuable, even if you find yourself in a relationship with a man who isn’t interested in marriage.

Sometimes people don’t see or choose to ignore the warning signs to escape the pain or disappointment. In the long run, however, this does more harm than good. If you’re in a relationship with a man who doesn’t want to marry you, knowing his intentions is in your best interest. It may be painful, but you can determine what your next step should be and if this is a relationship you want to continue.

Marriage is a big deal, it is the ultimate commitment, and not everyone wants to get married. If you want to get married, it can be devastating to learn that the man you love doesn’t want the same thing. Maybe he never wants to get married period, or maybe he just doesn’t want to marry you.

No one wants to waste their time on a dead end. No one wants to spend years upon years with someone who just isn’t–and maybe was never– on the same page. There are certain things you can look for, certain signs that will tell you whether the outcome you want is in the cards, but you have to actually look…and a lot of people don’t.

Sometimes it’s easier to just turn a blind eye to avoid having to face a truth that you really don’t want to accept…that maybe the man you love doesn’t want to marry you.

To help you gain perspective and see more clearly, here are 15 definitive signs that he is never going to marry you.

He gets angry when you try to talk about it

When the topic of marriage or commitment comes up, he gets angry, defensive, and uncomfortable.

At the root of it, he probably feels incredibly guilty. He knows–consciously or sub-consciously–that he doesn’t want to marry you, but he also doesn’t want you to leave, so he resents it when you put him in a position where he has to admit he can’t give you what you want. He wishes you would just leave the topic alone so he doesn’t have to deal with it and this comes across as anger and frustration.

He won’t be “official”

The ugly truth is this: When a guy says he doesn’t want a relationship, what he’s really saying is he doesn’t want a relationship with you – Johnnywriter

Forget marriage, if he won’t even commit to giving you a label and being your official boyfriend (or if you had to badger him into finally calling you his girlfriend),  then he definitely doesn’t see you as his lifelong partner.

When you bring it up, he might say something along the lines of he likes things how they are, he doesn’t like labels, why change things?

These are just empty excuses. When a guy says he doesn’t want to be in an official relationship, he means he doesn’t want to be in an official relationship with you…he’s just enjoying your company in the meantime.

He doesn’t “believe in marriage”

He claims marriage is just a piece of paper… it doesn’t really mean anything… no good can come of it. Guys don’t speak in code; when he says something, believe it and don’t read into it. If he says he doesn’t believe in marriage, believe him!

Do not make the mistake of seeing this as some sort of challenge. Don’t make it your mission in life to turn him into a believer.

Take it for exactly what it is. If you want to get married, and he doesn’t…then you either need to learn to be OK with that or you need to move on to someone who wants what you want.

He keeps you at a distance from his family and close friends

If you haven’t met his friends and family, that’s a huge red flag. If you have met his friends and family, but you don’t really know them, it’s a little less of a red flag but still a flag nonetheless.

If he doesn’t really bring you in…he doesn’t really invite you to family functions, doesn’t really include you when he’s hanging out with his close friends, he doesn’t really care if you like them or they like you, then it means he’s not really all that invested in you.


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He’s not really sure

You’ve been together for many years, maybe you live together, you know each other in and out…. but he says he just “doesn’t know.” What this really means is he knows… he just doesn’t know how to tell you.

Guys usually know early on when they’ve met the one. Ask any married man when he knew his wife was “the one” and the answer will most likely be very early, like well before the six-months-together mark.

 He shuts you out

He won’t talk about problems with you. He withdraws and shuts you out. It almost seems like he’s about to break up with you. He doesn’t let you in and you don’t have a clue about his emotional world.

When a man lets a woman in, he’s investing in her. Men don’t readily strip off their masks and show their true colors to the world. They reserve this for a select and very special few. When a man lets you in, really in, he is deeply invested in you. When he builds walls, he’s trying to keep you out.

He can’t deal with conflict

Part of being in a healthy relationship entails being able to handle conflict. This won’t always be perfect, sometimes it will be messier than others, but both partners are on the same team. They are both trying to reach a resolution and they work together to get there. 

They don’t go into combat like enemies. Essentially, it’s the two of them against the problem, not the two of them against each other. The conflict is a means to find a resolution, not an opportunity to tear each other down. 

If he completely shuts down when an issue arises, or he deflects the blame onto you and maybe threatens to break up with you, it’s a big sign he’s not ready to get married. 

Marriage is a life-long partnership. Sometimes these partners don’t agree and that is where the strength of your relationship will come into question. If he won’t talk about it, won’t work on it, and shuts you out, then you can’t have much of a partnership. Instead, you’ll spend your life walking on eggshells for fear of rocking the boat. 

Conflict can often strengthen a couple. It can be a means for breakthroughs and deeper understanding. In the case of a guy who doesn’t want to marry you, he could be avoiding conflicts about the status of the relationship because he knows deep down he doesn’t want to marry you. At the same time, he doesn’t want to lose you… so he avoids. He avoids conflict and he avoids talking about it. 

This often isn’t conscious and it isn’t malicious. He may reason that he just needs more time to figure things out and so he pushes the discussion off so he doesn’t have to deal with it right now. 

Either way, when a guy won’t or can’t work with you when issues arise, it’s a big sign he’s not ready for marriage, or maybe just that he doesn’t want to marry you. 

He doesn’t really care about your future plans

You mention you might want to go to grad school and he doesn’t really care … or that you want to live in another country for a while … or have other goals for the future. He doesn’t care because he knows he won’t be affected by these things because you aren’t someone he sees as a long-term partner

He also doesn’t talk to you about his future plans, or if he does, they don’t really seem to include you.

He will propose as soon as…

As soon as he gets that promotion … as soon as the busy season is over …  as soon as he gets settled in his new house .. .as soon as he can afford a really nice ring … as soon as he feels really financially table … as soon as you guys stop fighting so much … as soon as the sky turns green.

It doesn’t matter how many of these “as soon as” he achieves, there will always be a new excuse. He’s just buying time with all these excuses about waiting for the “right time” which will come at no time.

You feel desperate

How do you feel in this relationship? Be honest. If you feel needy, insecure, and desperate, then it’s a big sign you’re in a lopsided relationship, one where you are significantly more invested.

You should never have to beg and plead for a commitment. When it’s the right guy, he will eagerly and happily commit himself to you. He will do whatever it takes.

If you feel like you spend most of your time in the relationship convincing him to marry you… or trying to prove to him what a great wife you would be… it’s a sign that he is on a totally different page, a page that doesn’t include you or an aisle.

He has a bad view of marriage

He genuinely feels bad for married people, he thinks their lives are boring, dull,  and bleak. When a friend of his gets engaged, he feels pity, not joy.

He sees marriage as life in prison with the possibility of parole (i.e. divorce), but that comes at a risk of half your income and he would just rather not.

He downplays your relationship to other people

When people ask about the relationship he downplays it and says it isn’t that serious. He doesn’t really seem all that proud to be your man. When a man is truly in love, he wants to show off his lady. He is proud to be her man, he feels like the luckiest guy in the world and he wants to show off his good fortune to anyone and everyone.

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Another element of this is that his friends and family (if he has introduced you to them) don’t treat you like you’re someone special to him, you’re just another girl.

When a guy has found “the one” it’s just obvious and his friends and family all know it…and it comes across in the way they treat his girl.

Sometimes you can get so caught up in trying to get him to choose you that you forget to ask yourself if he’s even right for you. You know the truth deep down, it’s just not always easy or pleasant to admit it.

Conclusion

I know this can be depressing to read, especially if more than a few of these ring true, but it’s better to know now. Don’t cheat yourself out of having what you want. Don’t stay with someone who clearly can’t give you what you want just because you’re afraid to go out there and start again from scratch. It’s much better to be alone than with someone who isn’t right for you.

If you feel confused by all this, you’re not alone. Most women don’t realize what inspires a man to commit… what makes him see a woman as “the one” instead of a “good enough for now” option. If you want to know exactly what makes a man want to commit and what makes a woman stand out from all the rest, read this next: Secrets to Making Your Man Happy, Emotionally and Sexually, in a Relationship

Johnnywriter

Johnnywriter (a.k.a Johnny Speaks Relationships) the Founder and co-editor of Hisparadise. Relationship counselor and Life coach. His priority is helping people realize their self worth and have a happy relationship. Johnnywriter has covered topics related to depression, anxiety, stress, relationships and difficult family circumstances. With an understanding that there is never too much information and helpful research about relationship problems in all of its forms, He continues to look for new and creative ways to both start discussions & engage with others about these important topics.

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16 Comments

  1. Sometimes you can get so caught up in trying to get him to choose you that you forget to ask yourself if he’s even right for you. You know the truth deep down, it’s just not always easy or pleasant to admit it.
    This goT me

  2. My bofriend has a very bad view about marriage, what should I do Johnny pls I need ur help but don’t have money now to pay for counseling

    1. Thank you Annabel for your honesty. If your boyfriend has a bad view towards marriage it might as well means that he had a rough childhood. Maybe there was no love between his parents. You need to be slow and easy on him.. For our counseling, please hisparadise.com does not charge users for counseling, all you need to do is register as member and you’re free to go. Thank you

  3. John this guy makes me feel so desperate about marriage as if am forcing him to marry me. I feel I should let go but I cant

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